family wedding next Halloween?

I can only offer you some points to ponder since based on a single paragraph it's impossible for me to offer any personal opinion on whether you should go or not (my sense is that you are looking for thumbs up/validation to skip the wedding and go trick or treating). So I will offer some points you may or may not have chosen to consider:

1) There are over a dozen more halloweens in your daughter's life, but your cousin is only getting married once - presumably

2) your daughter is only 2- trick or treating at age 2 or 3 is pretty insignificant for the kids. Trick or treating for 2 /3 year olds is fun for the parents. No adult remembers their 2nd halloween knocking on doors. So if it's missed, it won't be missed :) besides, one less holiday with pounds and pounds of white sugar isn't such a bad one.

3) Certainly if you were sent an invite to the wedding ceremony and reception, it's your prerogative to go or not to go or go to one or not the other.

If you only attend the reception however, and not the ceremony, it looks like you're just showing up for free food and booze. That's kinda rude actually. She's inviting you to share in her special day. And a reception is what brides and grooms throw to thank their guests for coming to the ceremony and sharing in their special day. So if you're going to skip out, skip the whole event, to be fair and unselfish.

4) There doesn't seem to be any toxic relationship between you and your cousin- from what you said it's just that you don't hang out every day- 3-4 times a year is huge to me, because my family is scattered all over- and I see family members even less than that who I'm insanely close to, for geographical reasons. If I got to see my dad 3-4 times a year I'd be thrilled. Your child however is entitled to be exposed to a relationship with extended family. Not telling you what kind of parent you are or aren't or should be. But it takes a whole community - including family- to raise a child. A child's interaction and connection with family is integral in shaping her as a child, a young woman, a human being. Don't deny her that opportunity because you have some self serving reasons to dress her up and have a blast (you said you're the one who had a blast- she I'm sure wasnt crying, but you said you had a blast last halloween but she was only 2), keep things in perspective, your daughter won't notice in the least missing one halloween at age 2 or 3. So please don't make justifications that you're making this wedding sacrifice for her sake.

Ok so take that how you want it. I'm just being a straight shooter. Like I said, there's no point in offering points 'for' skipping the wedding, since you already are obviously set on choosing that route. All I'm doing is offering you some insight into the reasons why you would go to the wedding, and you know, just to look at this decision from all angles. Which is how good decisions are made ;)

So the wedding will be on Friday night, the 31st? what time is it.

Most little kids are done trick or treating by 5pm at the latest.

What time does the wedding start? Or you can skip the wedding and just go to the reception. You would still have time to go out with your kids.

you didn't say what time the wedding was so , i would say if you can take her before the wedding or go to the wedding and skip the reception depending on the time of the wedding you could do that . if it just wont work out take your daughter. they are only kids once .

While I could answer, it's "not all about you", instead I'll just say do what you like, you don't need our permission.