While drinking my wife of 16 years admitted that she drove 2 hours to meet a man she met in online role play.?

Hun, dont listen to the fools, The fact that you remember the day because she stopped by your work and said she went shopping kinda sounds like she got an attack of the guilts and needed to see you because she had to realise what she had, i actually would tend to believe her. She didnt need to tell you what she did, she quit going online, she came and seenn you straight away makes me think, the thought was there but she didnt go throught with it..

I suggest spicing things a little though just to make sure this doesnt happen again, but i honestly think she didnt cheat, but the intent may have been there for a moment. Im not on her side because i despise cheaters but i just think this may have ended before anything eventuated.

First off your wife has no business secretly meeting other men no matter his innocent she thought the meeting was. She talked to this guy online and was curious to meet him? Drove over 2 hours? I think she was thinking of cheating but had a change of heart. That being said she at least stopped herself from going further and told you about it. She also ended the online chatting in these games so she seems to have learned her lesson. It sounds like there was something missing that she was looking for online. Many people get caught up in a fantasy world and hurt the ones they love. I would tell her how it made you feel and move on from it. Communicate with her as much as possible so that you can strengthen your relationship.

What do you expect from us? Approval? Disapproval? Seriously guy...Your relationship obviously has some issues, like most...Wouldn't it be better to talk it out with her? Year ago or not? Do you feel it's appropriate - does she? -To cruise blogs and social sites looking for action when you're married? Believe it or not...Doesn't really matter...It's on "the table" for you to wonder, consider UNLESS you BOTH are willing to own your own "shi*" and start talking about what's REALLY wrong between you that led her to this type of betrayal...Right?

Grace

Well unless she's into car sex, I doubt anything happened. The fact that she told you means she wanted to dump any residual guilt.

And she met the guy probably out of curiosity.

16?

So she intended to cheat even if she didn't. Same thing if you ask me.

It was me she met. I banged her. I'm sorry. To be honest, it wasn't that great. I won't do it again.