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I miss my ex girlfriend so much. I want her back :(?

I graduated from basic combat training for the army august 31. My girlfriend dumped me the same day due to distance. A week later she texted me how she made out with this guy and I went off on her. I feel bad about that. (I'm normally so super nice to her). We're on bad terms now. When we dated, before the army, it was exactly 9 months. We were seniors in high school. We hung out every single day after school, I slept over every single night, and I lost my virginity to her. With her, sex didn't even matter. It didn't becsuse believe it or not (I know I'm not a normal guy) I loved her smile and her warmth rather then sex. I bought her random presents just to see her beautiful smile. I slept by her side for 9 months every single night in high school. Now, some other guy probably is. She replaced me I bet.. I'm at such a loss. She was my very first love. What do I do? We're 10 hours away now, because I'm in the army. I still love her and will take her back for anything

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  • 8 years ago

    She did you a huge favor.

    Basic training is a few weeks long. If she can't handle that kind of seperation, the two of you didn't have a prayer for surviving a deployment. Who knows where you would have been then. Married with a baby? I know you loved her and she was special to you, but it's over. Far better to find out that she wasn't committed now rather than later.

    The bit about her telling you about fooling around with other guys is just cruel, and should show you what kind of girl she really is. If it makes you feel better, girls (and guys) usually say hurtful things like this to make themselves feel better. She was feeling uncertain, and probably guilty about what she did.

    The good news is that you're in AIT, which is probably the most female attention you'll receive at any time in your entire life. The day you broke up is literally the best day that it could have possibly happened. Enjoy AIT. Go to the hotel parties, enjoy the company, but be smart and be safe. Don't be one of those suckers that fools around with a girl for a week and then marries her because he's afraid she'll move on. And never, ever take a relationship to the next level just because you're going to be stationed somewhere else or you're deploying.

    Stop talking to your ex, today. Unfriend her, block her e-mails, and just quit wasting your time. She's shown you she's a *****, so hold your head high and leave her back in the dirt where she belongs. Find somebody new. Preferably, find several somebodies new. When you don't have tunnel vision from obsessing about the one girl you've dated in the past year, you'll be able to make better decisions about your love life.

  • 5 years ago

    It's going to be pretty painful after breaking up with someone you love so much. It's inevitable that you're going to feel very down, sad and depressed. Sometimes it seems you spend every waking moment thinking about how to get your ex back. Try to visit this site in order to get the best benefit out of it https://tr.im/strategyexback

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    First off, NEVER play mind games with people. This will only get people hurt and will probably end up worsening the situation. I only mention this because naturally people are ruled by their emotions rather than thinking their actions through thoroughly. Think the situation through before doing things based on your emotions. Remember, even if you do manage to get people to do what you want, this amounts to manipulation, and however good you feel now, I guarantee it won't last very long.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    Aww that's so sweet you sound such a lovely guy but you know what you deserve better you shouldn't wait around for her whike she acts this way. Go find a nice girl with a similar attitude to yours and you'll look back and think im glad im not with my old gf. time heals all honestly

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    Have sex (or at least fool around) with at least 3 other women, and then re-evaluate your situation. If you feel the same about her, then try to align your life logistically so that a relationship would be possible.

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    Lv 4
    4 years ago

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  • Lance
    Lv 6
    8 years ago

    There are some hard decisions to be made in life. This is one of them. It is time for you to move on.

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