If a friend or family member does something you think is wrong (say, adultery)...?

There is no obligation to change the settings of your moral meter.

Realize that you are not that person's judge.

Realize that you also understand how easily you yourself can fall (and perhaps HAVE fallen) in similar ways. How did others react to you?

This is why there is forgiveness and mercy....because in a similar situation, we ourselves would like to be treated with compassion.

Most people know they've done wrong. It is punishment enough to know without someone having to tell you it's wrong. Neither did Jesus condemn us, but said: He who is without sin, cast the first stone.

No you are not obligated to think it's right. Adultery is never right and it's extremely damaging to a marriage. Most don't survive. That person made a vow to their spouse and broke that vow.

That doesn't mean you stop loving them. You just do not agree with their actions

My wife wouldn't exist if not for adultery. Do I think it was right for her parents to do it? I can't say. I wasn't there. From what I have *heard* of their situations, I don't blame them for seeking love away from their abusive relationships at home.

I'm going to try something new and try not to judge

Adultery is never okay, we are all human so we are entitled to make mistakes. If it has nothing to do with your own love relationship, learn to accept it is their life and they are free to screw it up.

No! Would Jesus compromise what he believed in? No.

Love for his creator and Father Jehovah came first.

No, of course not. Wrong is wrong, even if it's done by someone you love. The thing to do is to lovingly tell them it's wrong, and point them in the right direction.

my wife divorced me even though God says not to but I still want nothing but the best for her

no. you are obligated to disagree with them.