My parents always think I'm a screw up. (please read)?

I can relate to a lot of that, my mom is pretty similar. I wish I could tell you that there's something you can say to them to make them change their minds, but there isn't. You could suggest family counseling, maybe seeing some outside help about how they treat you. Sometimes it just takes someone else's opinion if you can get them to go to it anyway.

I think the best advice I can give you is just to rely on what YOU think of yourself. You know you're doing well, you know you're going places, you know you're not as bad as they say you are, and that's all that matters. Because you are. And over time, they might come to see it the same way. You're at an age where parents feel like they're losing control and they just simply don't know how to cope, so they try to hold on to you this way. You are so much better than that, and don't forget it. Just go on with your life and don't sweat what they say.

We can't compare who we are to others, or their expectations. Your parents don't make you who you are, just like the failures of your brother doesn't make you good. In order to determine good and bad, there has to be a standard of good and bad. Without a standard, we always find ourselves comparing us to something else to see how we measure.

God's standard is his Law, which some call the Ten Commandments. No one has ever lived up to the 10 Commandments and kept the law in its entirety. Jesus Christ came so that He could live the law and die on the cross so that we can be saved and know victory through His life.

When we accept Him into our hearts, we no longer have to compare ourselves to others, because Christ has made us a new creation. The old standard of "Good" (The Law) has been fulfilled in Christ's death and we are now a new creation.

You are always going to struggle with people who think you are worth little, because your standard of good and bad is off. There is nothing good outside of Jesus Christ and what He accomplished on the cross. That is where your peace and your answer is (John 3:16). Best of luck to you and sorry your mom treats you this way. I will be praying for you.

that really stinks. i'm sorry your parents are that way. however, i think you should forget about what they think because only they can change their attitude, but you should be proud of yourself and happy for yourself despite your lack of parental support. don't let them damper your spirits.