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What is the most polite way to decline offer to attend Bible Study?

I am an adult woman and recently met another woman that I would like to form a friendship with. She and I clicked right away and we talked about all kinds of things, including spirituality & morality (in a rather broad sense). It was clear to me that she was a practicing Christian (goes to church, etc.). I am spiritual, respect all others' religious views, but do not subscribe to strictly Christian Bible teachings, going to church, etc.), but there was no point in sharing that.

I texted her with a message letting her know how much I enjoyed meeting and talking with her. I told her I would love to get together for coffee, dinner or even a cocktail. She replied back that she also enjoyed meeting and talking with me and that she would enjoy getting together.

The next email I got was an invitation to join her at a women's bible study meeting. I found myself at an absolute loss as to how I should reply without hurting her feelings, insulting her, or putting a damper on our getting together socially and developing a friendship. I have absolutely NO interest in a women's bible study group, although I do enjoy discussing spirituality and ethics with friends.

I would love to hear suggestions for the best way to reply to her. Thank you in advance to anyone whom may have a respectful and practical approach.

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    7 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Lily59, just my opinion, but I think your reply should reflect some of your real intentions. Not knowing you it is difficult to reply intelligently, but I will try.... If you are [not] a Christian and absolutely don't feel that you could be converted, then find another friend, Why?, because if she is active in her faith, and it sounds like it, she will continue to ask you to become involved as a Christian. This may become a little awkward for you both. If [and I say if] you have another agenda for this relationship, more than just friends for example, then there will be real problems down the road. So what I'm trying to say is , you will have to come to grips with your own feelings and progress in a truthful and honest way considering both your feelings. Hope I haven't rained on your parade, but you asked for a respectful and practical approach. Good Luck.

  • OzNana
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    Just say to her that much as you enjoy her company, you don't want to raise false expectations that you are interested in this kind of thing. Tell her that you think it best to be honest with her and to tell her directly and simply that you do not want to attend such a group.

    If she persists, you can move to the next level, and tell her that you'd rather eat your own liver than attend her bible class.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    Same way one would decline an invitation to anything you have zero interest in, for example a rock concert "I appreciate the invite, but I simply wouldn't enjoy it". And then, as others suggested, offer an alternative get-together activity.

  • Pat B
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    Maybe I'll join your for Bible study some other time but for now I'd rather meet one-on-one so we can keep getting to know each other better.

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  • 7 years ago

    Just tell her you don't like Bible study meetings and how about a coffee instead.

  • 7 years ago

    Just go along. Sometimes when we think we have 'absolutely no interest' in something, its because we have no knowledge of something. What else will you be doing that evening? Spending time watching nonsense on TV?

    Maybe you might meet some people there that will help improve your life.

  • Just tell her no thank you and see if she would be interested in other activities that are social as well such as hanging out with other woman who have differnt group meeting in the locality whear you are, such as sewing groups.

  • 7 years ago

    You could say..... Thank you, that's so sweet of you to offer, but I'm not Christian. I'd love to do something else sometime though.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    Just say you don't think that's really for you and suggest an alternative. You don't have to share all of your interests to be friends, and if she's a decent person, she will understand that.

  • 7 years ago

    Women should not be dating other women.

    Tell her your not interested.

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