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Is there any hope for this relationship?

I've known this great guy for about 4 months and we've been hanging out a few times a month and sleeping together. One problem. He said in the beginning he didn't want a serious relationship, and I respected that and appreciated his complete honesty. We get along great, have great sex, and this past weekend we went away together and he would hold my hand in public. Driving in the car with me he said he was happy. He told me he likes me. At the same time he treats me like a good friend. He got dumped about a year and a half ago and I think that's why he's hesitant to be in a relationship, also because his job is very demanding and takes up a lot of his time. Ive developed feelings for him, and I'm just curious about others opinions of whether it's possible for him to fall for me and change his mind. Should I wait it out? Should I take sex off the table and see how he responds? Should I give up altogether? I really want him to be in my life still cause he's become one of my best friends.

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  • Anonymous
    7 years ago
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    I'm in the same situation except he never explicitly said he liked me.

    I think its good if you are completely honest with him and have an honest conversation about where the relationship is going.

    I had a conversation like that with my "friends with benefits" yesterday and it turned out that we still want to be friends and hang out. The conversation did not lead to a relationship, but it made our relationship a lot more open and honest (which is always good).

    Just have the talk when you sense it is the right time. It may or may not lead to something else. Just be sure you are clear on what you want from the relationship.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    I think you should "take sex of the table". If he seems to not like the idea, you should maybe tread a little carefully, But he seems like a good guy and you should wait it out. Breaking up with someone you have been dating for a year and half can be hard so give him some time. But after about 6 months if he is still not over it then maybe you want to call it just friends with him because 6 months is too long to be pondering over an ex. If this happens then you know he is still probably not over his previous girlfriend.

    Hope this helps :-)

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