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Has ex-wife really moved on?

We have been divorced for 2 yrs now. She just called me, I mean just, as in 5 minutes ago to tell me of a dream. She had a dream that I got my current girlfriend pregnant and that she ( ex-wife ) would watch our child as my GF and i went out. She said in her dream, she was more than happy to watch our child since she felt it was somewhat a part of her ( ex wife ).

My ex wife divorced me after having an affair with a married co-worker. About six months after the divorce, my ex wife realized what a mistake she made and tried several times to talk me into reconciliation. I told her no. Up until around two or three months ago, for the past year or so she has done everything possible to get my attention. She invited me on her and the kid's vacation this year. Called to get my advice on almost every aspect of her life. Would come to me with tears in her eyes saying how unhappy she was and she wished we could be a family again.

She used to be jealous of my girlfriend and asked if her and I were spending weekends together etc... I guess my question or questions are these:

- Is she finally over me?

- Why would she be having dreams of me anyway?

I know I should not care, but I have to admit it was nice knowing that I was not as easy to walk away from as she first acted. But while she was telling me about the dream, she was laughing about it and telling me about it as if she was telling a friend. We were married 15 years. Together 22 years total. Two awesome kids. I think her and the affair dude are still somewhat together.....

Update:

@mmm - Good point. My "gf" situation is very complicated. She is not over her ex either and probably never will be. I think we both agree that we are more comfort for each other than anything else. She may not be too happy to read this question, but she would understand.

I don't think I am over the ex, I know I'm not but I know their is no hope for us and that is why I told her no on reconciliation.

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  • heyhey
    Lv 6
    7 years ago
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    I agree that it sounds as if neither of you have really moved on. At the same time, I wouldn't read anything in to her having dreams about you. I've had dreams about people I've met once in my life. Obviously, having been together for over 20 years, you are a part of her psyche. The fact that she's telling you about this dream implies, probably, that she's not over you. And you asking the question on here, implies that you're not over her either.

  • mmm
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    it means she would do anything to separate the two of you if you had a child with your gf

    it means she is still jealous and wants to be a part of your life - in her dreams she would go so far as watch your child by another woman - to get your attention

    I can't believe you're on here asking this question - if I were your gf - I'd be wondering if we should be together or not . . .

  • Kate
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    It doesn't really sound like either of you have completely moved on. If she's having dreams about you, she's still thinking of you in some way. It maybe that she was trying to get a reaction out of you by telling you or is trying to fit herself into your life as a friend, now, but clearly she still thinks about you a lot.

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