What's an appropriate gift for a young relative's confirmation party?

I think cash AND a modest gift certificate to a Catholic book store near you would be just right. The cash makes up for the gift certificate that "forces" the person to go to a Catholic book store! If you can afford it, I think a a gift certificate for $25 and another $25 in cash would be appropriate. If you are of modest means, $10 in each form would be just fine. If you are VERY wealthy, it is OK to give a large cash gift anytime, but that should not be presumed.

If you can NOT afford a gift, it is OK to bake the person's favorite cookies, or some other such very personal gift IF you know a special treat of some sort that the person likes. That treat could even be the person's favorite candy bar or bag of candy. If you know the kid always ate all the cashews from the mixed nuts bowl at Christmas time, get him or her a can or jar of whole cashews. If he always loved Good and Plenty candies, get a box of those along with $10 in a card.

I think special little personal gifts can be very nice.

They show that you actually know the person.

Just make sure you are correct about the cookies, nuts or candy.

Like the others told you,

it is no offense at all that you were not invited to the Confirmation mass.

Many churches just do not have enough seating for everyone.

If all parents and grandparents show up, plus godparents and only one aunt and uncle,

that makes 10 guests for every person being confirmed. Some churches are too small to encourage that. Keep in mind that the mass is always open to the public in a Catholic Church. You may go, but it likely will be very crowded.

I am Roman Catholic.

Peace be with you.

They probably weren't snubbing you to not invite you to the confirmation. They're probably only allowed to invite 2 to 4 people--and you're lucky not to have to go. I usually give money. $25 to $50. You could also give a patron saint medal or one of the Holy Spirit.

Money might be the best thing.

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