I am getting married this summer and my fiancee doesn't want to wear a tux? Help!?

Is it his wedding?

Is he an adult?

Let him pick what he want to wear for his wedding.

Is he telling you what to wear?

Why do you think it's okay to tell him what to wear

That's fine. That is more like suit but if its nice and he's comfortable don't force him to wear something he hates. There are also some tuxes that come disguised into what he wants to wear. There are some more casual looking suits but still very dressy for a wedding.

Also, a fiancee is a woman and a fiance is a man :-)

Of course it's okay. The colored shirt & tie should match or coordinate with the wedding colors. The groomsmen and ushers can wear the same thing, maybe using a 2nd color for their shirts and ties (or switching the colors the groom is wearing). Unless everything else about the wedding is over-the-top formal (which I doubt given that you have a western theme), I'm sure they'll look great.

That's what our guys are doing. We're doing a Alice in Wonderland inspired wedding this July and the guys will be in black pants, shirts, and vests with red ties. It looks super classy still and I think it's more appropriate for summer anyway (you don't want him overheating in a tux). I had a friend do the same last summer and it's really cute and it still looked plenty formal.

The trend right now is for the groom and groomsmen to wear a suit, over a tux.

But explain to him how formal and dress your gown is and ask him to a suit with a jacket.

A jacket is really needed for the ceremony and photos

He can always take the jacket off at the reception

It would be a good compromise

My husband wanted to wear all white tux. He is tall, big and bald. he would of looked like Mr. Clean. I vetoed it. And 30 years later I am still glad I did.

It will be fine. Make sure he's clean and well-pressed, and no one will care.

BTW, I live in Texas, where almost every wedding is a "more western wedding." The most common outfit for grooms around here is nice jeans, boots, a button-up shirt, and a tie. The addition of a boutonniere helps. LOL

People do it all the time. There is no reason that a guy has to wear a tux, a suit of any sort is fine. I kinda think that a vest and tie with no jacket looks a bit "unfinished" but many people disagree with me.

Tons of examples:

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Of course you should let him wear what he wants.... He is an adult, correct? Weddings are not required to be formal events. I think in this case, a tux would look very out of place, and your fiance is right to not want to wear one. You'll never regret looking back and seeing your husband happy and comfortable, so I see no reason he shouldn't wear what he wants.

I wore a wedding gown and my husband wore black dress pants, a black shirt, and a red tie. His groomsmen wore black pants, white shirts, and red ties. It didn't look bad at all and honestly all of them were ****ing thrilled not to have to shell out money on a tux.

Actually a tux would look wrong. You can wear a dress with lace and/or pearls so it looks good next to what he's wearing. Now all he needs are some cowboy boots, spurs, and a pistol plus a hat:-)

This is HIS wedding too, and he should be able to wear what he wants. How would you like him to dictate your wedding day wardrobe?

My husband refused to get married in rented clothing so he decided to buy a suit. I respected his wishes. When you get married, you compromise. Telling a grown man what to wear on his wedding day was not a battle I felt worth fighting over.