After engagement blues?

Just do not start planning the wedding.

Give your self time to just be engaged. Talk to yoru finace, let him know you are a littel stressed and would like to just enjoy being engaged. Talk about the future- not the wedding. But how you see yourselves in five years. Jobs. How you want to handle finances. paying bills, what you would spend money on, children. Would you move, live in a big city, out in the boondocks. Move to another state if one of you got a job offer.

You need to talk about the marriage before talking about the wedding.

Give your self time. You do not need to get married right away, you do not need to break off the engagement. Give yourself time to just together

On a site like this, it's pretty impossible to guess whether this is typical or something else. It could be the "Christmas" syndrome, meaning any time something that's been anticipated comes and goes, it's always possible to experience a letdown. However, I do think it's a little unusual to experience this after engagement, because nothing has happened yet. If a couple is ready for all this, it's looking to the future: you know you've got the right person, you can't wait to get married and you can't wait to start planning the wedding.

When you question whether you've made the right decision, what popped into my head is that you have the right guy, but this was all too soon. A year isn't a lot of time, and if it's possible this is what's happening, you're at huge risk of sabotaging your relationship by applying false pressure to yourselves. You don't want that! So if you think this is the issue, talk to him asap. Find the words to tell him that you know he's "the one", but you don't think your relationship is established and mature enough to be taking this big step. If you're very young, this is even more critical.

In other words, you're not cancelling the engagement. You're postponing it.

I wasn't nervous until I was in my wedding dress and my groom standing at the alter! I'm still married though! And happily! Don't set a date right away. That's number 1. You really have to listen to your gut! Do NOT walk down that aisle until you know absolutely 100% that this feels right! Don't think about your friends or family's thoughts. Even if everything is paid for and your 5 minutes away from walking down the aisle, if your even a little unsure, back out! Don't feel embarrassed. Marriage doesn't make things easier! In fact, marriages are sometimes very difficult, especially of you have children. The only thing harder than marriage, is divorce! Woman have a special gift of instinct. Listen to it!~ I think "drip" hit the nail on the head! Great advice drip!

When I first got engaged, I had cold feet and didn't know if I was making the right decision. It's totally normal. I dated my fiancé for 3 years before we got engaged and now that I'm 5 months away from my wedding and pregnant with his child, I'm happier than I ever have been. It's totally normal! What I did to help me out was sort of plan out the wedding in my head, get some ideas online, and just have fun. I would go out with friends, spend time with my fiancé. Congratulations to you both!!!