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Will I not be accepted into Heaven?

I am fifteen years old, a girl, and Christian. I love God, and intend to follow His word.

EXCEPT to "obey your husband". I am not lesser than a man, never will I be. I will be independent and equal to him, and I will not be lesser than him at all whatsoever. I refuse this, and I will not simply be there to provide for my husband. I will not. I will make my own mark in the world (of psychology, I plan) and we will be together on it. Not him over me, but together as AN EQUAL. The Bible says that we are second to men, but I will never be. I am a person too, not just man's pleasure outlet or his servant. I am a separate person who will choose what i want to do for myself. I WILL refuse this. Does that mean I'm going to Hell?

Update:

I AM SAYING that I am EQUAL to him. Not dominant - NEITHER of us will be dominant to one another. We will be faithful and EQUIVALENT. I will have my own journey outside of the house, making my mark and he will too. I'm not simply there to obey him and pleasure him. That's what I'm saying.

Update 2:

@Mark: I am not THERE TO SATISFY HIM PLEASURABLY. THAT IS NOT MY PURPOSE AND IT WILL NOT BE. I will never give a man a chance if he believes that is correct.

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  • 7 years ago

    Being equal is not our purpose in life its to serve God. God made woman from Adams' rib to symbolize being next to him. Neither should a woman dominate the marriage which many do. They nag, demand, and in general make the man miserable.

    To be equal never works entirely, you have strengths he does not have and if he is the one for you he will have strengths you do not have and you need to accept that. When you refuse that is the sin of pride that is the downfall of many marriages and why there is so many divorces. God is our Father he knows what is best for us, also remember that women were mentioned in the Bible as brave and strong but many just quietly did what was expected of them. If we are on the right path we will understand that but at 15 you are still listening to many secular thoughts and you have to find that balance by really studying your faith.

  • Aaron
    Lv 5
    7 years ago

    God made women to walk next to man. God made Eve after He made Adam, but He took a rib from Adam, which symbolized that Eve was to walk NEXT to man, not behind him.

    God establishes an order. The man is designated to be the head of the house, which means he is the leader, provider and protector; however, the woman is his other half, and he must love and cherish her and her opinions, for this is commanded by Christ.

    A man who will not recognize the needs, opinions and thoughts of his wife is no husband.....God has established the man to lead, but never, ever to walk over his wife. Men use the garden as an excuse to dominate women, but they forget that Adam sinned more than Eve, for God told Adam directly not to eat from the tree, and Adam told Eve. So, Adam sinned more than Eve.

  • 7 years ago

    I agree with you...but what does that say about the bible you believe in? You should read some more about it...it has a lot more stuff I'm sure you'll disagree with that are direct orders from your god.

    But from what I've read the only unforgivable sin is not believing in him, so as long as you believe and love him...he should forgive you. Me on the other hand...I'm going to hell because I don't believe he exists, would that be something you agree with?

    May I ask (and I don't mean to insult) why do you love a god who says you are beneath a man?

  • ?
    Lv 5
    7 years ago

    this will take along time to answer and I just do not have the strength now to answer this you are playing with fire with your attitudes being equal is a problem, not a problem excelling in a career or life's work but woman was created for the pleasure of man, ok you are right you should not have to do the dirty socks, he should provide enough to take care of all that, but then there are people who doing dirty socks is LOVE in its manifestations

    the point about LOVE IS there is no choice in LOVE LOVE without reservation is what I want to say.

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  • ?
    Lv 4
    7 years ago

    The bible is a profoundly misogynistic text with its roots in the Bronze Age and a demonstrably false view of reality. You're probably better off bestowing your devotion on the Invisible Pink Unicorn.

    @Daniel: Apologies, marked you down by mistake.

  • 7 years ago

    That's Old Testament stuff. Don't worry about it, women and men are equal.

    I would consider it, take into heavy consideration what your husband says and have him do the same for you :)

  • 7 years ago

    Your attitude is what will damn you, unless you change it. If you do not humble yourself before God, become willing to do whatever God says do, you will not be accepted into God's home, or heaven.

    But, scripture does NOT SAY WHAT YOU THINK about this.

    That is man's lies.

    God did not make us servants to men. Christianity is EQUALITY, regardless of how man refuse to see this.

    But your attitude is against God. I also knew God was at work in my life, but until I sought God enough and learned his truth, and THOUGHT I was to obey, I did that thing.

    I cried before God about this 'women must be silent' stuff; many times.

    God showed me that IS LAW AND BY THE LAW NO FLESH SHALL BE SAVED.

    IN CHRIST THERE IS NEITHER MALE NOR FEMALE.

    I have the Holy Ghost, so I am the same as any son of God, even thought I am a woman.

    Seek God; study his word. humble your spirit and seek to know God's truth, or you will be lost, no matter what you do in this life.

    Source(s): KJV truth
  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    I've examined 3 religions already. I don't mind you loving your god. Keep your belief if you will. I have nothing personal against your personal belief.

    You'll come to find out there is no heaven or hell as you explore as many religions as you can with no bias.

    Again, keep your belief if you wish. You have many more years to explore in your life. Do whatever you want with it.

    You'll be fine no matter what. I have plenty of Christian friends who do not take heaven and hell literally. Some of them even find some Buddhist teachings fascinating and adapt according to their favors.

    Question those people who keep repeating to you they hold "truth".

    Good luck finding your answers.

  • 7 years ago

    Every religion considers women lesser than men. You are headed in the right direction.

  • 7 years ago

    The Holy Catholic Church teaches, through Scripture and Tradition, that the husband is the head of his family and has God-given authority over his wife and children. This gift of authority does not give a husband any greater dignity than his wife. Both are equal members of the marital covenant, as is reflected by God creating woman from the side of man (as opposed to his head or feet). Instead, this order of authority reflects the divine order between God, Christ and man. God blessed the marital covenant with this order to maintain peace and harmony in the family, the “domestic church.” Just as Christ is the Head of the Catholic Church (the family of God), so the father is the head of his domestic church (his family).

    Just as wives must be submissive to their husbands as the head of the family, husbands must love their wives sacrificially, as Christ loves the Church:

    Eph. 5:25,28 – just as wives must submit to their husbands, husbands must “love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…husbands should love their wives as their own bodies.” Just as the Church is legally and morally obligated to submit to Christ, wives are obligated to submit to their husbands. This is why Paul makes the comparison between husbands and Christ, wives and the Church.

    Husbands authority over the wife comes from the cross, not the couch. Biblically speaking, wives have it easier than husbands, but our culture has been infected by a womens liberation that was invented by Karl Marx.

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