When a guest brings a dessert for a dinner, after it is served and there is leftover pie, is it a gift to the hostess or taken home?

The pie is a gift to the hostess and any leftover pie should never be taken home by the guest

You are bringing dessert as somewhat of a gift to be eaten. Therefore, you should leave it behind.

This is why whenever I see a nice plate on sale or even at the dollar store, I buy it. These inexpensive plates, with dessert on them, become a total hostess gift and I never have to go chasing my dishes to get them back.

Whenever I bring any dish to a party, I do the same thing. I leave the plate, bowl or platter behind. I write on the bottom of the plate with permanent marker "Yours to keep or pass along". I once received the same platter back, four years later!! After researching, we found out it had been in two different states, at a Christening, a funeral and two birthday parties!! Too funny.

It is usually considered a gift to the Hostess, unless the hostess asks you if you want to take it home.

Hello Sarah,

In my opinion and many experiences visiting and having Dinner, both business and casual I would like to suggest that you leave the Pie for the Hostess as a 'Thank you' for hosting the event and/or inviting you to the event.

Not only is it a fantastic gesture toward your business/personal relationship it is also a great tool to use to get invited to future Dinners or Parties they host and might also appeal to other guests whom host their own activities.

Now this is all my humble opinion and you may have to evaluate whose house you're going to or whom you're inviting to your own house. I suggest if you are the hostess that you allow your guests to choose whether or not to leave or take the items they've brought to your event. If you aren't comfortable accepting the meal or dessert item remind them a single time as they are leaving that they forgot their item. If they ask you to keep it kindly thank them and continue with your departure notes.

With all situations always evaluate your surroundings, people and any other factors before you make a decision. It's always helpful to ask your partner or friends their opinion as well, they may know the situation or arrangement more than you do.

I hope I've helped!

- Knight A

It is the hostesses.

what the heck is knight saying?

uh chick, when one is invited to someone's house for dinner, a hostess gift is in order and it's customary to bring a dessert or wine. And the bottle also stays with the hostess.

It is a gift to the hostess, it is never to be taken back by the giver, ever.

in terms of etiquette to take any food to a person who has invited you to their home for a meal is an out and out insult,why do you feel that you should supply the dessert?it means that you don't like the dessert that she supplies,or you feel that your dessert is better than hers,if you ever take a food dish to a friends home and even if it is not touched you leave it their only a penny pincher would take it back again