Should I punish my daughter for this?

I am not saying any of this to be mean, but here is the deal.

You cannot just tell your child to 'study' and let that go. You have to be interactive with her schooling so that you can help her when she needs it, and also see that she is staying on top of what she needs to. Make sure you have a constantly active dialog with her teachers so that you know how she is doing in school and can be informed of any difficulties she may encounter. This will send her the message that you are interested in what she is doing, and will also tell her that she cannot get away with not doing what she needs to as you will be monitoring her progress.

Make sure you have a study area that is centralized in your home, a bedroom is not an optimum choice because, even if she does not have the electronics in her room, there are still plenty of distractions for her to have fun with rather than studying.

You could try having a homework station set up in a corner of the kitchen or the family room, or just have her do her homework on the kitchen table with supplies she may need in a caddy that she can put away when she is done, and have her do her homework at the same time every day, so that you can be there too to answer any questions and to keep her on track. Keep the TV and music off, and check her progress every so often to make sure she is doing what she is supposed to.

Also, did you ask her if she had any trouble understanding the material that she was being tested on? It may be as simple as she does not know the material and does not feel she can ask for help. That is why it is vital to have an open dialogue with her teachers, so that you will be kept up on her progress.

As far as punishing goes, you need to tell her that until she can pick up her grades, there have to be changes made that will benefit her and help her do better, but making her feel like a failure will not help the matter at all, it will only reinforce her feelings of inadequacy. I was HORRIBLE in anything that was math related, and my father (whom I loved dearly) would often tell me that I should be great in math just because he was. It made me feel like such a failure. Be direct about this with her, explain her role in this and the consequences of her not doing her part, tell her you will be taking a more active role in her education, and go from there. Good luck.

She needs to be grounded, but she needs to know why in no uncertain terms. Talk to her teacher and ask if this is normal or if something happened, what made this test different. You do need to get involved with her studying I mean if I failed a test and got a retest my mom even now would be on my back to get studying or else and I'm in my second year of college. It's science so it's easy to leave a paper trail for studying with note cards and work books. My mom makes my brothers sit at the table and make a notecard for each vocabulary term in the chapter. One side with the term the other with the definition. There is also this cool thing on the discovery website where you can put in the terms and definitions and it will make you a crossword puzzle. It's pretty late into the semester now almost finals time and she's slacking. Momma you need to crack that whip or she will suffer later on (sorry if you're a dad). Your little girl needs a come to Jesus meeting soon (attitude adjustment).

I raised my kids and found that if I stayed on top of things while they happened I had better results in the long run. Is there distractions in her classroom? Guys? Is she unhappy about something, you need to do the heart to heart thing and be open to finding out what is going on in her head and heart at this stage of the game. Would you sitting beside her and making studying and remembering fun for her be an option? Is there an equal balance for "If you study and get through school we can do these fun things along the way>>>>) How about some idividualized time where you get to know eachother personally, a girls, lets do some personal makeover stuff today, and talk....about your ideas, creative, loves, hopes, dreams even those that failed, etc. I found that when my kids were having problems in life, it's because they needed me to bond with them individually, and get to know their indiv. wants and needs and desires etc. Good luck to you..PS> it was also, and I speak from experience personally here, when my grades drastically dropped it was due to alcohol and drug use. I couldn't tell you today if someone stood before me and was loaded, but it's something to think about, peer pressure is absolutely horrible!!!!!stay close to your girls, and now is a time to buddy them for a while...

I would ground her. I would also monitor her homework and studying time. I'm very proactive in my daughters study time.

**** yeah!!! Id whoop her ***!!!!! And make her do nothing but study!!! My mom was lenient when i was growing up always saying things like, well as long as you pull a c and pass were ok, so then i ended up taking advantage of that leniency and screwing up! Be tough on her! she will thank you later!!!!!!!!!! I wish my mom was.

If this is something that she's not good at then I would most certainly get her the help she needs and not be angry about it. I was terrible at math. Being punished for something that I had trouble with didn't help me at all.

If she's simply being difficult, then yes, she should learn that she can't get away with it.

I would be very angry, but that won't solve the problem.

If I had to be tutored in science for the summer, that would make me learn my lesson..... ;)

I agree with punishing her by making her study, as long as you know she did not study and it wasnt just her not understanding the material.

If it was me I would limit her time spent with friends and doing the fun things she likes to do for at least 2 weeks. I would sit with her and make sure she studies the material. I would even ask the teacher for a test I could take home and use on her so that I know she studied and learned the materials. Also make sure she is aware that the laziness of simply not studying TWICE is not going to get her very far in life.

The punishment that hurts most kids the post is telling them how disappointed you are, and telling them they aren't punished. If that doesn't make them feel bad than I'd say grounded for a week or two.

I would explain to her that it's not acceptable and tell her about how hard it is to get a high paying job without college and that you need good grades to get into one and you should take hints away that she likes or uses frequently and stick to your guns good luck

You need to sit down with her and go over the material she's supposed to have studied, and make sure she understands it.

Once you are sure she understands it, get her to study it and learn it, and rather than saying 'if you don't pass I'll take away something you like', which is demoralising for a child, it would be better to encourage her by saying 'if you get a good mark on that test, we'll go do something really special together'.

In other words, motivate her to do well by rewarding her good performance with little treats.