Asking her one final time to meet me?

Tell her what you told us.

As long as you don't have any preconceptions (which you will.. but try not to) then just be open and tell her how you feel.

If it's something that might change things make sure that when you meet it is in a very public place and that she possibly has a friend with her.

When you are there, tell here that you are nearby and it would be nice to meet. If she really likes you , she would come to see you. Of course this is bearing in mind that she already knows that you like her.

If she says no or doesn't say anything or doesn't show up , just have fun and meet friends , enjoy your time.

you can still love her or have feelings for her even if she rejected you. Who knows, maybe you'll still be single and one day she will call you and ask to meet. You never know what could happen.

"She knows that you like her probably."

If you meet again, make sure to give her best time ever ; she may change her mind after that and decides to meet you more often. IF she accepts to meet again, get her some flowers or some gift that doesn't have to be expensive but should be something symbolic.

Some people are just really conservative about things agree to online. All those stories about rape and things originating from Internet chat boards may have gotten to her. It may be best not to ask her again if you think this is the case.

You could also just set up a meeting place then let her know what you'll be wearing or something. If she sees you and wants to talk to you, she'll let you know, and that way she doesn't have to risk exposing herself to possible assault. Not saying you'd look suspicious or anything, but that might be what she believes.

Just ask her one more time and tell her that you guys can meet in a public place. She can take her car to meet you, and you can take a cab and at the end of the meet you both go your separate ways. But if she refuses again she might just be lying to you about who she is, or maybe she's actually a really young girl pretending to be older. Honestly, if I were chatting with someone online for 4 years and I got the chance to meet them I would absolutely take it. I don't know whats really preventing her, but good luck

You have to make it comfortable for her. I wouldn't be comfortable meeting someone that I've only talked to online by myself. It has to be a public place probably with friends. It's not a fairy-tale, although it may seem like that.

You can always ask again, but make it casual. Like......" OK, last call. I'm finalizing my plans for my trip to your city and I would really like it to include meeting you. We can meet for 1/2 hr in a coffee shop and just talk. You sound really (nice, interesting, etc.) . " Say it and mean it, like either way its OK. If she says no, take it in stride and move on. BTW the reason u choose a very public place and only make it 1/2 hr. is for safety and for no pressure.

Individuals don't listen to their instincts in the modern world. Think about what your heart wants.

Sounds like a catfish to me. Ask her to meet again and if she doesn't then cut her out of your life.

I guess it would be the right and only time to at least try, has she sent you a picture of her? Does she know what you look like? Don't pester her about it, be sure to ask kindly like you've already done.

http://www.wikihow.com/Persuade-People

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http://www.wikihow.com/Safely-Meet-a-Person-You-Me...

she's probably a catfish, or if your communication has been solely emailing or whatever, no pictures involved, then maybe she's just insecure. ask her why.