Why does EVERYONE say Im argumentative?

you can debate something, but don't get so emotional about it. Everyone has their own point of view. Respect the other person's point of view and don't try to convince them that you are right because that would prove that you are argumentative. Just state your side and then listen to their side... and leave it alone after that and be happy that you had an interesting debate.

it sounds like you're not arguing any more than they are, you're just arguing better than they are. lol

like maybe they don't really know what else to say or how to counter your point(s), so they get frustrated and resort to criticizing you personally. that's pretty common when someone feels cornered.

as far as changing it, i don't know. you'd have to not disagree. let them think they're right and they 'won' the debate, which is probably what they want.

Humans interact based on common shared ground. You should talk to people to find out shared common interests or ideas

Liberal and a conservative = argument

Liberal and liberal = long chat

Conservative and conservative = long chat

See how it works?

There's people I talk to who I probed till I found common ground. But that's unstable. The more things they share in common the less the arguments will be