Craigslist?

I am so sorry. I have been married for 26 years and would be VERY upset and VERY hurt if my husband did something like that.

In time you will heal and then you can decide what YOU want to do as far as your marriage and your life.

Stop drinking and find something to help you work through the feelings - maybe walking, gardening, reading, writing, whatever interests you.

Wow! You are carrying a lot of hurt, suffering and emotional pain. What happened in your marriage that made your husband do what he did? There must be other causes beside you working 12 hours a day? You need a break away from him until you can decide if you are able to forgive him and continue with your marriage. I do not know if marriage counseling would do any good. Your marriage may be too broken? Unfortunately, healing your heart and soul is going to be up to you. The question now becomes "Are you able to forgive him?" Is your marriage like a broken egg shell? Ask yourself "Are the pieces so broken that they cannot be put back together?"

If you worked 12 hours a day I'm sure he was lonely and the evil came to make him company.

Besides after you working 12 hours a day you have no time to take care of his needs as a man ... of course you were too tired to please him

Unfortunately the materialism of people make them to work like a horse and they forget about the principals of love and companionship with their partner.

Now you had have what you did not realize it might come to your house.

I hope you forgive your husband and and don't make your self work as you do

Of course your husband made a mistake and your eye not there to support him because thou were so busy making money

Money give you wellness but it doesn't give you love

Would you trade everything material you have for the love of your husband. ... if you say Yes then you love your husband talk to him and forgive him and once you did it do not keep records of his wrongs

First thing you need to do is recognize that it is his behavior, and you are not at fault. My feeling is that once trust has been lost in a relationship, even one that is long term, there is no hope. Others will suggest counseling, I think it is a waste of time. But you need to pick up the pieces and move on. You have a lot of life left yet, don't give up on it.

The internet is a horrible place at times. It is like making it so easy to look at things that most people never would of without computers.

Get some counseling ASAP Both of you. He has gotten addicted to living dangerously. Had there of been no computers he probably never would of done anything remotely like this. This doesn't excuse him.

If you do divorce there is life after it And it will make you strong. Believe me because I have been there myself. Please don't lose yourself in this process. Drinking isn't going to solve a thing. If needed get some anxiety medication from your doctor.

Please your kids and grandkids don't need two addicted parents/grandparents.

You need to be the one left standing.

I know it is hard.

If EVER there was a cry for the need for marriage counseling, yours is IT. You do have a lot of years invested in this marriage. He SAY'S he felt he was "losing" you, which is an interesting remark and one that bears your need to consider and think about this. He also say's he wants to stay married and to you and make it "work". You're too tired and hurt right now to "see the forest for the trees". You really could use a week off to be by yourself for awhile to walk, think and consider all, even if it means checking into a local hotel, resort for 3 or 4 nights to have the time I believe you need to THINK CLEARLY. In the meantime? You owe it to yourself and the investment of your marriage to seek one on one counseling FOR STARTERS. If later you wish to bring him into the counseling, I think that would be a worthy idea. Talk is cheap, especially "sex talk" and he doesn't SOUND like a bonafide cheater, he sounds lonely...He sounds like he would like more intimacy if not companionship WITH YOU. Have you considered this point of view at all? I wonder...

These are my thoughts as an older woman probably closer to your age than not who believes this may be a real chance here to "clear the air" in your marriage - perhaps something that has been needed and shoved aside and now has come to the forefront through this "Craig list" garbage. You can choose to remember the worst of all this OR keep FOCUSED on the REAL issues at hand - the fact your marriage was broken and you were too tired perhaps, or focused on OTHER issues, to really notice. This isn't blame dear, this is saying you missed the "signs" and I'll bet they were there.

I would also recommend you try and get a massage on Saturday's to ease you into the weekend, or late Friday night. This type of relaxation relaxes not just the body, but the heart and soul and really does help in putting you "back together".

These are some of the ideas and things I suggest to see if you can't find it in your heart and soul to consider all before you act...

I wish you all the luck in the world, I honestly do but first? You must seek some counseling to explore a bit more about yourself, your marriage as it has been and get some fresh perspective.

Grace

Big mistake on his part. Contacting live women? No doubt you feel devalued. This was wrong on his part. Feel free and it's best advised that you disconnect a bit and focus on yourself. Join a gym if you're not already a member and focus on YOU. Men always want what they think is a challenge. Make yourself a challenge. But be carefree in his presence. Act like you're fine, with or without him. Because you are. Men don't like doormats. Trust me. They like string, independent women... who have other options. I'm breaking the man-code by telling you this secret!