Is this just as good as giving money? The last few years I've noticed that people who are begging for money seem to have an attitude with me?

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like I should give them more than what I gave them. This really hurts my feelings because I've actually be unemployed, underemployed & at times in between places to live. I had a women who was probably living in low income housing ask me if she could have a dollar or two so she could buy a hotdog from the hotdog stand. I only had $2 & that was my last $2 until the following week. I had the $2 in my pocket & I gave her one of the dollars & instead of saying thank you she said "I said a dollar or TWO" indicating I should give her BOTH dollars. Her friend (these were elderly women) was the one who thanked me for the dollar & I just said you're welcome & went on my way. 
Then just last week this man asked me if I could give him some money. All I had was $1, I gave it to him & I saw the look on his face when he saw that I gave him just $1. I don't understand how someone who is begging for money can get mad at someone for giving what they have. I'm not working either! If a smile is considered charity can I just smile at them when they ask? Because I'm tired of people being disappointed in my $1 that I really can't afford to give away either. A simple thank you would be fine really - anything but the disappointment or entitlement that some of these people have when you actually stop & help them. So if I smile is that just as good as giving them the money?

? · Accepted Answer

Salam Really giving money as charity or infaq is better than asking and begging for money Based on hadith the hand over(giving money) is better than the hand under(receiving money)

aspicco · Answer

Times are tougher than ever. Many people are angrier. So yeah, but I always say something like "I'm sorry, I can't today. Good Luck... or Blessings to you."

Anonymous · Answer

Not all beggars are what they seem. It is better to give your money to a proper charity, so you can be sure it is used for something good.

I once felt sorry for an old lady selling matches in the street in Jakarta. I gave her 10000 Rupiah, about a dollar. She got up in no time, took all her things and vanished round the corner... Two minutes later I was surrounded by 20 old ladies, all loudly demanding their 10000 rupiah. That was the last time I gave something to a beggar.

Pancho · Answer

It hurts your feelings?? Not mine. Beggars can't be choosy. And you should be very cautious about giving street people money. Too often they buy booze or drugs or cigarettes with it. Instead, offer to buy them a sandwich. When I've done that, they often say, "No, thanks." That means they really wanted to money to buy booze or drugs or cigarettes ...

Dr. Sour M.D - Abortionist · Answer

You have to realize that a lot of beggars are professionals at it; and just like any smooth sales person they look for targets, they work their tricks and they get p*ssed when it doesn't work. If you have limited means, hold onto your money, they most likely have more than you.

The Virginian · Answer

Do not give those type anything.

My name is not bruce · Answer

I wouldn't do that.  Just walk away.   I know you want to help...but you need to look after yourself first.  
Also, just smiling...especially if you have a creepy smile...might be asking for a malicious knifing.

A lot of people choose where they end up in life because of their attitudes.

☪ Chaudry · Answer

Tell me about it, I've often given 2 Rs./ what ever coin I have in my pocket and they throw it back at my face often. Smh.

Mongo Khan · Answer

Just say, "Sorry but No, I need it just as much as you do."

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Is this just as good as giving money? The last few years I've noticed that people who are begging for money seem to have an attitude with me?

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