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Sue B
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Sue B asked in Society & CultureEtiquette · 7 years ago

A good friend is starting to creep me out?

I'm an older lady who is starting to be creep ed out by a friend. It seems when we go shopping, she waits for me to pick something and then she buys the same thing. She's even dyed her hair the same as me. Kind of reminds me of that movie " Single White Female".

I feel if you say...make your gardens the same. There is nothing to talk about, if their the same. Know what I mean? How do I get over the "creep" feeling?

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  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Thank you for taking the time to post your question. I hope my response finds you happily enjoying your life.

    When we make friends with people, continued exposure to them is rather like an audition, to see how well they meld into your life and how much you've in common to share interests with.

    The level of comfort should be increased the more time a good match spends with you. If you have the uneasy feeling, it's best to trust your instincts. Perhaps there is more here than meets the eye. If this friend has exhibited other behaviors, which lends you a creepy feeling, and you do not wish to help her grow into her own identity, there is not harm in letting the friendship melt away.

    If you have a desire to further the acquaintance with her, broaching the subject with a pleasant demeanor will provide an opportunity for your friendship to grow and confidence that it's a good friendship.

    If she becomes annoyed with you for bringing up the subject, there is no rule that says, each person we meet must remain friends with us.

    Trust your instincts. They are rarely wrong.

    All my best,

    Lizzy Ann :)

  • 7 years ago

    How long have you known her? Maybe, you should take a temporary break from her. Just to test her true personality out. You know to see if she turns into this irrational irate woman than. If that happens. She may be more than what you bargained for. I dont like people like that personally. They make me uncomfortable.

    Single White Female scared me at the theatre.

  • 7 years ago

    I think she is trying to follow your example. Tell her "Try to be more individual, find your own style."

    I would not recommend doing what the other answerers said, accepting fewer invitations could possibly make her feel hurt.

  • 7 years ago

    She sees you as a role model. Maybe she feels insecure with herself

  • She looks up to you, and feels close enough to copy you without needing to explain. The movie you mentioned is very creepy though. If you feel that way, I would reevaluate the friendship. Does she do anything else that sounds weird? If so, maybe slowly distance yourself.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    dont shop together anymore

  • 7 years ago

    dont go shopping with her if you can help it

  • 7 years ago

    Let your good friend creep you out

    Source(s): Gospel
  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Try this. You pick an item, she picks the same. Make a point to notice it and say, "well if you're getting the same thing I pick something different" and then pick what you really wanted. If she then switches her choice, put yours back and say "well that's just silly" and walk on to the next area.

  • 7 years ago

    She may simply admire your taste, but for the time being, accept fewer invitations from her to go shopping.

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