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I still keep in touch with my first love from high school. It has been 20 years since we seen each other. However, we have talked about getting together. And had fun talking about high school. He is now 40 years old and I am realizing what a loser he is. I know that sounds mean. All he does is call me drunk complaining of the mistakes he made in life. Or, sends me these stupid text. Yesterday, he tells me his Mom kicked him out of the house. And how he has no where to go. Oh, and how he needs to serve jail time for his dui charges. Yet, he wont turn himself in.

His Mother has told me he has stolen from her and will not support his own kids. At first I had thought I would never disown him. Because, he was my first love in high school. But now, I no longer care he is just toxic. Am I wrong

I have a friend I have known since high school. Anyways, Im getting tired of pretending her lifestyle and her choices are great. To where I gave her my opinions and how I feel on the phone yesterday. First of all, it started when she got pregnant by this married man. She disowned me even for a year just over advice because of that situation. Now, we are talking again. I have kept my mouth shut for a long time. But, she was complaining to me over her Mom giving her advice. I told her she tends to take peoples advice to personal. I gave her an example of how she choose to disown me over advice once and how that was not right.

She is with this guy that has no car. He is using her car all the time. Now he is answering her cell phone. And when she was due at any moment. He was getting plastered to where he was in no condition to drive. That way she can make it to the hospital safely while in labor. When I would speak to her about that. She choose his side over mine. Here she is a 40 year old woman. She is with some 25 year old guy. She is acting like her actions are ok. And acting as if its ok for her to be treated the way she has been.

Also, when she calls. It feels like she automatically ask me judgemental questions. Like this. "So what are do you doing." I respond with oh nothing much. She will say "So your just sitting around" I feel accused of something or judged. Along with her questions of why I dont work. Here I am thinking atleast I dont get knocked up by married men.

In the past, I have asked advice on this particular person. So please do not think I am repeating myself. If you are familiar with my questions in the past. This is something new I thought would not happen. I have managed to get this toxic friend out of my life. He was very demeaning and insulting. He had more problems than what I was prepared to give help to. We were friends for 8 months. I ended the relationship. I told him he was to toxic for me. I also told him I do not like his crazy messages on my machine. I told him this last month. I was finally brave enough to stand up to him. I was scared to do it at first.

Because, I did not know how his mental state was. Like if he would commit suicide or something. But, it got worse. His phone calls were of him repeating my name 3 times in a row. Then, making demands I call him. Than the next call he would be crying on my machine. Saying things like how he needed help, how he does not know whats wrong with him. Even after I would turn down dinner dates he got ruder and ruder even over text. So I finally had to block him on facebook, and block his cell phone number.

That did not work. He called from his home phone number leaving a confrontational message. So I called and told him he was toxic and how I am scared of him. He finally quit. Out of the blue he calls to wish me a Happy Birthday two days ago. Yeah, acting like nothing happened. Than he starts talking about how he has no job blah blah blah. Is this a future stalker guys

Hi I just need an opinion. I used to work at Wal-Mart. I worked there for 6 months. I worked there as a stocker. And I did not feel appreciated. However, I felt like I met some very nice coworker friends. I quit because my seizures were acting up. From the sress on the job. Along with being yelled at in front of everyone by the manager. Just because I could not get the items stocked fast enough.

That is when I decided that was my last day there. That is the past. But I befriended this woman. Whom we always used to talk on the phone and a lot when I worked at Wal-Mart. Everytime she calls me. She ask me questions if I regret quitting my job. Or, she will talk about the drama at my old job. Like which manager got fired. Or, which manager has felonys etc. And how they are thinking of letting my other ex coworker become a manager etc. It makes me feel out of place.

Also, she always ask if I have a new job yet. It makes me feel embarrassed with that question. Like will she repeat my business to old coworkers at my old work. So how should I handle this. Should I continue to associate with her. Or, let this ex coworker stay away. I just feel she is a bit of a gossip of my old job. As if their is nothing else for her to talk about.

Okay I finally ended an 8th month friendship with a friend. He was a person I never should of befriended. I never knew he had the problems he had till later. I started noticing he had some problems. I once caught him talking to himself in the bathroom. With black hair color running down his face.While yelling at the same time at the mirror. He also pushed me once, I forgave him.That is an example. I tried to help him as a friend. But all it did was get worse. He treated me like dirt and stupid me would forgive him.

When I ended the friendship. He would leave borderline psycho messages on my answering machine. He would say my name loudly 3 times in a row. Than say, call me please, please please. Then he would start crying after that on my cell phone. He would also leave other messages on phone crying and saying he needs help he does not know what is wrong with him. It just got real scary.

He could not accept the fact I did not want to be friends. The The calls, the text got worse from him. I had to block his phone number and block him from facebook. His borderline weird text calls literally made me want to puke. When I was at the mall I was worried I would see him or be followed. That is how I am thinking. Like hope to God he does not do anything stupid.

Has anyone dealt with these kinds of people. And how do you learn to not worry if that person will do anything crazier than calls. Thanks for reading

Hi I have a pregnant friend that is with a LOSER!! She had an affair with a married man and had gotten pregnant. He is now divorced and they live together. She never wants to listen to anyones advice. This is her first pregnancy and she acts like she will not be a good Mother. Here is an example. In her trailer park neighborhood, their is registered sex offenders. Her response was not even that worried. She said " Their is nothing to worry about."

Also,her boyfriend drinks and gets drunk around her. When she is due at any moment. I gave her advice that she needs to put her foot down. I told her this. Because, he needs to be sober enough to drive her to the hospital incase she goes into labor. She got mad at me for being concerned.

Also, I think her boyfriend listens to her conversations. He answers her cell phone. And he has used her phone to text me. And he has gotten into her facebook to send me a message. On top of that, he called me yesterday asking where she was at. I never met him in person, but feel weird of him.

He also will not marry her. Yet, he uses her car he has no car no good job. He is 25 and she is 39. Their is things he does. To where she acts different on phone if he is around. She has changed and acts like she will not be a good Mother. It has made me question my friendship with her. Partly because of her morals and acting like she wont be a good Mom. And acts so snoby. When we have known each other since 8th grade. Thoughts

I ended things with a friend. Because he was a bit of a borderline insulting kind of guy. He was depressing, and had no motivation in life. All he wanted me for was his counselor and other things. He denies it, but whatever. It's over! He continues to call me leaving messages on my machine. For me to call him. I call him and what is wrong. His response is I am bored can you pick me up. I cannot handle things here he says. By the way, he is 50 with no car, and has never lived on his own.

At first, after I ended this so called adult friendship. He said can we still be friends. I said yes. But, I said that to be nice. Instead, he calls me the next day, the day after you name it. So he leaves the dramatic messages on my machine and calls left and right also. I ignored him till later. He called me to get him out the house because he was having an emotional break downs. I finally told him I am tired of him calling me. And that he needs professional help. And that he needs to learn how to treat people in life better.

It is to the point I have to be mean now. He will even cry over the situation. It is very disturbing for me. Makes me scared he will do something to him self. What do you all think

I have befriended a man that is in his 50's. We met at work last year. He seemed great at first. But now, I'm discovering he has extreme emotional problems. He seems to take my beliefs on life with a grand assault. He has epilepsy just like I do. But, he uses his epilepsy, as an excuse to not try to do things for himself. He choses to not work, ever since he got fired. Anyways, I find he never wants to listen. Yet, I find myself feeling like his counselor all the time. He doesn't like serious topics. He doesn't like it, if I ask if he is gay. He claims he is not gay. Yet, he goes to gay clubs, and gets pedicures and goes with gay friend at times. Today he screamed from the top of his lungs at me over the phone. Just over a topic. My question was does his friend have his best of intentions. He misunderstood and started screaming.

He treats me rude at times. Which I do not deserve. Because, I take him places because he can't drive. I take him grocery shopping take him to get his medicine etc. Yet, I am a bad guy and he gets so defensive. This friendship has also become romantic. It's starting to feel like that is all we can get along with. But, conversations no.

Hi I have had a friend since high school. She is a bit slow kind of challenged. She has staring spells to where she stares with saliva coming out of her mouth. She is also ultra sensitive and has conversations with herself. I am explaining all this. Because, she is now pregnant. I worry that her mental condition will cause her to have a still born. Also, she is due in April. She is still working which she shouldn't. She has a job where she is always standing on her feet. I tell her to resign from her job. She is risking having a miscarriage from being on her feet all day that far along in the pregnancy. I say all this, because I have had 3 miscarriages. I do not want her going through what I went through. She never listens and has absurd ideas on raising her baby. She has this idea that each co worker at her work is gonna take turns watching her baby while she works. So basically, she is going to pass the baby around to different people while she works at the grocery store.

On top of that, she is settling for this guy that won't marry her. She had an affair with this married guy later she got pregnant. I also worry he will back out on her. She is 39 and should know better. Am I worrying to much or what.

Okay, I have an Aunt that joined facebook. Well, that was a big mistake. I set my account, for her to not post on my wall, or even see my wall. All, she can see is my info, pictures and message me. I did this, because everytime I posted comments on my wall. She would call me asking why this or why that. That is why I did that. When that happened she left a psycho message on my answering machine. Saying this. " I want to know why I cannot leave messages on your wall." I want to know why your info page says this." Yeah, she thought my info page was aimed at her; when it wasn't.

When she calls me. She continously ask me, is she is still on my facebook friends list. It makes me uncomfortable. She is in her mid 50's and acts this way. I know she has problems. But, I am realizing she lets facebook get to her. What drew the last straw was today. I receive a message with the same redundant question. " Why can't I post on your wall."

My response to her, was this. I will be honest here. I think you take facebook to personal and let it control your feelings. I also proceded to say this. I like my facebook set up different than most people. I told her that doesn't mean I love her, or anyone else any less. I tried to be polite in this message. But, deep inside, I wanted to be rude and delete her. I am just sick of her uncomfortable questions just over facebook.

I feel like deleting her for her and my own good. Any thoughts yahoo?

I have this friend, we were neighbors and became close. Anyways, she wanted to throw herself a birthday party. I told her how about I help host the party; she agreed. We have talked about this for a month. I now live 30 minutes from her because I moved recently. However, the birthday plans were still going on. Here is the thing though. I have epilepsy, and a suspended license due to my epilepsy. She knows all this. I buy all these gifts for her, and I was also getting her a cake.

Two days before her birthday celebration, she tells me in a text; that she cannot pick me up to celebrate her birthday. I thought telling me in a text was so hurtful and rude. She really had no good explanation in the text. I felt like a fool for buying all this stuff for her. When she was the one wanting me to help plan her party.

Thoughts

I have a friend that has applied to adopt a child. I don't think she should adopt. Because, she has to many pets, and her house always smells like pee. You can smell the pee, even when your knocking on her door outside. I no longer want to visit her home. Because, I smell like animals after I leave her home. She has seven cats, and three dogs. She has two rottweilers and one shepard. I have talked to her of the amount of animals in her home. And how all the fur can cause a baby to get sick. She seems so oblivious to what I say.

What is your opinion Yahoo?

I figured I would ask this in the pet section. I used to have a dog for two years. Later, I gave this dog to one of my best friends. Ten years later, which happened yesterday, I get a ****.. message on facebook. Saying this, "Sterling had a stroke, he passed away at 2pm. I was crying when I read this message. Because, this dog was once mine. And he was a sweet dog. My friend got a text, while he was at work from his roommate saying his dog was dead. Then I got a crummy message from the friend. I griped my friend out over the phone. For the way he told me on facebook. I asked him am I not worthy enough to even call. He said he wasn't thinking. He then complained of how it was received it on the text from his roommate. I said, than why did you think it was ok to tell me on facebook.

My question is this. If someone told you, your old dog died, or your dog died. Would you want to be told over the phone, or on a facebook message or text.

I have a friend/neighbour whom I have be friend-ed. I have known her for six months now. But, I am starting to feel uncomfortable around her. The reason is, is every time we hang out. She always has to hug me. She will say this. "Come here, give me a hug." But, she says it, to the point where I feel like she feels sorry for me or something. Or, as if I were a kid or something. Sometimes, I regret telling her my personal business. Because, she will make it seem like I am stupid for working it out with my husband. Not only that, when I had a miscarriage last month. She went on and on. Saying your so tough, how do you do it. Or, she will call me asking if I am feeling okay everyday sometimes. As if I am some sickly person or something. Just because I have epilepsy, doesn't mean I need to be asked that day after day. That is what I feel like telling her.

Also, she has depression. She is on depression medicine. At times, she can act so weird to me. If I knock on her door, to see if she wants to go to the gym, or go walking with the dogs. She will open her door, and not even invite me in. She claims her house is messy so she never lets me in sometimes. She will have her head sticking out with the door barely open. She complains her life is so miserable also. Sometimes, it is annoying. Because, she has a great business, she also does television commercials. She was also a beauty pageant winner years ago. Yet, her life is miserable. Which is annoying to hear people complain who have it great career wise. She also has admitted she has no female friends. Because, she is intimidated by women. Which makes me wonder does she only like me, because I am less attractive compared to her.

What do you all think?

Okay, I have a facebook page. I have a family member whom has no job, no life and is becoming obsessed with facebook. Anytime, I comment on my wall; she has to comment on everything. It makes me feel like I am being followed or she is prying online. I didn't think this would happen by inviting her to my page. But I guess, their is always a first time. Here is an example. Anytime, I leave a comment, or click like to a fan page. She will call me and ask why did you say this or why did you click that. Then, she will click like to everything I click like to. By the way, she is in her mid 50's. Sad a woman that age can be like this.

Now here is the worst part. I decided to avoid her calls. She has now been calling me like a psycho. And leaving crazy messages on my machine. Because, she is no longer allowed to see my wall, or leave messages on my wall. All she can do is message me privately. Well, she got mad at that and decided it's all against her. This may be trivial to some people here. But, have any of you had this problem on facebook or myspace? She also was offended at my info page;and thought it was against her when it never was.

Okay, I was at a all day training orienation today. I met the most annoying unprofessional 22 year old. All she talked about was her drunk friends; her friends getting duis. And, how she goes out and gets drunk. Then she even asked if their was people her age. Because, the princess didn't seem to like being around mature women. Then, she texted while the guy was talking to us about rules about the organization and volunteering.

At the end of the day, we all had to take written test. Once again, she had to talk about her drinking friends while people were taking the test, and she went on and on. Finally, I had to say this to her. "No offense, but with you talking ,I cannot concentrate on my test. I then said can you talk about that some other time." She looked upset, like she was told no for the first time in her life. Then she walked out the building in a bad mood. By that point, I did not care. I was sick of her ranting like that at the same table as me in a small conference room. What would you guys have done.

I have an Aunt, that used to be my favorite Aunt when I was growing up. As I became an adult, I realized she is just a psycho. When she gets mad, I mean look out. My own Father, has even said she can get violent. If your opinion is different than hers. She will get mad, or she will ask why in rude ways. I can go on and on about this woman. But, that would take two pages just to describe this woman. Anyways, she is not working. She has not worked since she was married to her ex husband. Her spousal support ran out years ago after the divorce. She has not worked, since her grown sons were babies. She was a housewife even when her sons were in high school. Her excuse back then, was I don't have to work; I have a man that takes care of me. Well now, she no longer has a man. She is not disabled either. Lately, I get the feeling she has been hinting for my husband and I to help her financially.

Because, she calls me a lot telling me how she is depressed and has no job. Then, she will tell me how no one in the family will help her out with her bills. How no one cares for her. She admitted to me that her church is paying her rent. Yeah, those collections from her church are paying her $700.00 a month rent. Along with her two sons helping her with rent. I think she is a moocher of society. I also think she is purposely looking to sue someone. She is always having these accidents. And claiming she hurt herself. She is always going on about how I should take advantage of the system because I have epilepsy. Then, she will also say black people do, so why can't you. These kind of things bother me of her. When she calls me, I see her number on the id. And my body literally tenses up. After a phone conversation with her, I am in a negative mood for 3 days. Any positive advice you give her; she tears it down with negative talk.

I am always easy to give good advice here on yahoo. But, I never follow my advice with this woman. What do you all think. I have just lost more respect for her as a human being. I feel bad, but I cannot help it. I tolerate her, and just look at her as a person whom likes to play the victim in life.

I have an Aunt, that used to be my favorite Aunt when I was growing up. As I became an adult, I realized she is just a psycho. When she gets mad, I mean look out. My own Father, has even said she can get violent. If your opinion is different than hers. She will get mad, or she will ask why in rude ways. I can go on and on about this woman. But, that would take two pages just to describe this woman. Anyways, she is not working. She has not worked since she was married to her ex husband. Her spousal support ran out years ago after the divorce. She has not worked, since her grown sons were babies. She was a housewife even when her sons were in high school. Her excuse back then, was I don't have to work; I have a man that takes care of me. Well now, she no longer has a man. She is not disabled either. Lately, I get the feeling she has been hinting for my husband and I to help her financially.

Because, she calls me a lot telling me how she is depressed and has no job. Then, she will tell me how no one in the family will help her out with her bills. How no one cares for her. She admitted to me that her church is paying her rent. Yeah, those collections from her church are paying her $700.00 a month rent. Along with her two sons helping her with rent. I think she is a moocher of society. I also think she is purposely looking to sue someone. She is always having these accidents. And claiming she hurt herself. She is always going on about how I should take advantage of the system because I have epilepsy. Then, she will also say black people do, so why can't you. These kind of things bother me of her. When she calls me, I see her number on the id. And my body literally tenses up. After a phone conversation with her, I am in a negative mood for 3 days. Any positive advice you give her; she tears it down with negative talk.

I am always easy to give good advice here on yahoo. But, I never follow my advice with this woman. What do you all think. I have just lost more respect for her as a human being. I feel bad, but I cannot help it. I tolerate her, and just look at her as a person whom likes to play the victim in life.

I have a Brother in Law, who is marrying this girl after knowing her for two weeks. She lives in Vietnam, and hardly understands english. He flew to Vietnam recently. After the second week of knowing her. He put a ring on her finger. He is 36, and she is only 18 years old. He swears he is not doing this for his needs. Yet, he wants to have kids fast. He was also dating someone right before he flew to Vietnam. I have tried talking him out of doing this. But he is hell bent on this girl. She is also 3 years older than his teenage son. I told him I will not give him moral support, or attend his wedding. When I see pictures of these two together. I am literally sick. Because, she looks 13 and he is so much older. It's like he is so insecure, he would rather marry someone who doesn't speak english. He has these high expectations of her. Yet, at the same time he is robbing her of her youth. What do you all think? How can I get past this?

Okay, my Brother in law has met this girl online. He met her on facebook. She lives in a different country. He has never met her; but he is already falling for this girl. When I saw pictures of her she looks like she is 13. Well, my Brother in Law is in his mid 30's. He claims the girl is older. But I keep telling him don't believe strangers over the internet. Another reason I am starting to think he lust after 13 year old looking girls. Is because this girl has pictures of herself at the arcade. Yeah, normal adults don't hang at the arcade I tell him. Then, my brother in law makes sexual comments on her pictures of her at the arcade. This is so sick. Words just cannot explain this. Not only that, he is planning on spending money to fly to vietnam to see this girl. He is over his head and thinking in the wrong way. I have talked to him about this and he will not listen. What would you think or do.