How to make my mom forgive me?

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Hello,
Well over the past year, my mom has hit me, kicked me, pulled my hair, punched me,and tried to suffocate me. She's apologized for everything she's done, but still continues to slap me occasionally. Yesterday she got in a fight with my dad, and she punched him, kicked him, slapped his face, and bit him when he didn't even touch her. Few hours later, my dad decided to be the better person and forgive her for what she did. I was so mad at her for doing that to my dad, that I looked up the charges for child abuse online on my phone. So yesterday when me and her what talking, she tried looking up something on my phone , and the child abuse thing came up that I had searched earlier. She said she didn't care if I called the police, and said she would call them for me. She said her way of "disclipining" me was legal, and it was just a way of spanking me. But at the bottom of my heart , I know that's not true. I'm 14, I can tell the difference between spanking and abuse. I felt bad when she found oh that I had looked something like that up. I know I shouldn't forgive her for what she's done, and call child services, but I don't want to. I'd like to give her one more chance and get her the help she needs. How do I get her to forgive me? I've said sorry like 10 times and she still wont forgive me. Please don't tell me that I should report her and stuff, it's m life, I'll know when to do that. If she still keeps abusing me even after I get her help, I'll call. Thanks.

Luta · Accepted Answer

ok i know this is your mother, and i know that no matter what, you will always love her, so i'm not going to call her names or anything. But what she is doing is wrong. You're right, at 14 years old you know the difference between abuse and a little spank, and what she is doing is abuse. I'm 16, and my mom does the same with me (not the suffocating). She even said she would call the cops on me bcos i hit her back one time! But bcos i had bruises on my arms and red knuckles from blocking her slaps, she didn't call. Now she just calls me mean names and trys to break me that way. What i do when this happens is when youre sure she's gonna leave you alone for the rest of the night or day, just start righting down what you feel. I actually suggest you get a tumblr if you dont have one to talk to people that are in the same position as you. I had one until my mom found out.. But it really helped me to vent and share my opinions adn what happend during the day. You can keep it anonymous and hide your identity so if anyone you dont really want finding out about it (school friends, mom, ect.) will have a hard time searching for you. I know that deep down your mother DOES love you. I know mine does, but we just clash heads sometimes. And besides, over time, she will cool off. Just give her space and do what she says :) mothers are very interesting sometimes....

brballin · Answer

Tell her spanking is legal, but kicking and suffocating a child is immature as hell. I'm sorry, but nobody on this site understand how b!tchy your mom is. So think about how you can make her feel bad about her actions so she realizes that she's making a mistake by being to aggressive.

RAVEN · Answer

she wants you to be sorry because she abused you???

your father needs to get you out of there, he is allowing her to abuse you
your family needs help
today

Anonymous · Answer

you see kid, the whole idea of "just give her one more chance" is what gets people abused.. continually. Your mother had her chances. dozens of them, maybe hundreds of them.  You can't be a victim of abuse.  Don't let yourself go down that road, because you will never come back.
in all honesty, you have to report your mother. No exceptions, not "just one more chance"s-- if it's gotten so bad that your father wont do anything about it, then you have to.
Your mother may not forgive you-- but then again, neither do abusive husbands when they are reported by their battered wives.
Just like you and your mother's abuses, I've seen this happen before, over and over again. And just like you, I can't let myself stand idle by and watch it happen one more time.
There is no way around this one.

How to make my mom forgive me?

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