Is it wrong that I blame my mother for the death of my dog and my dad? I'm so angry...but is it rightfully so?

Sam,

Look this is a serious issue that you should step back and look at. First off the dog. She was bringing in food and had her hands full. Plus dogs can be trained not to run outside so you could blame yourself as well. Did mom really need something else to do everyday? You can't blame her for the death of your dog, I know you feel this way, but she didn't intend on the dog dieing. She sounds like a hard working mom, who is just trying to keep things in order. Life can be very stressful and considering the loss of her husband, she could probably use more support from you. You need to sit her down and let her know about the resentment you have and then forgive her. She is your mother and she has forgiven you countless times, that's what families do.

On the topic of your father. You can't blame her for that as well. Depression is not the easiest thing to diagnose and is almost impossible to ever cure. Think about the time when he was depressed and letting the home and fiances fall apart. Who stepped in and kept the family afloat? MOM.... If anything your Mother deserves your respect for living though it and keeping you fed and everything she has given you. She is stronger than you give her credit for and maybe its time you start being there for her. After all she has been there for you and it sounds like nobody has been there for mom. It's easy to blame, it's not easy living though it. Give her a hug and tell her that you love her and thank her for all that she has done for you. She most certainly deserves it, she has been though a lot.

I am sorry about the dog and it sucks to lose a pet. Your father was depressed, but he made the choice to end his life and that's in no way your fault or your mother's. You need to forgive him and help your battle ridden mother though this harsh thing called life.. It's hard and there are too many factors to always know whats best.

Although you can't help how you feel, you can change how you view this. Blaming your mother for your dad's suicide is really unfair, first of all. Depression is a tricky thing and not everyone understands how to deal with it. She may have been a nagging witch but your dad had other options and he chose that one. That's not her fault.

With respect to your dog, (and your dad, didn't mean to discount him) I am really sorry for both losses...but these things happen and death is unfortunately part of, well, life. Dogs run away and get hit by cars all the time and frankly, it sounds like it was bound to happen given that your dog seemed to take every opportunity to escape. Yes, more care should have been taken but being angry and blaming your mom isn't going to bring your dog or your dad back.

So, maybe you could recognize that as humans we all screw up, sometimes really badly. But it was an accident on your mom's part and I think you should forgive her. If that had been you that accidentally did that, you'd no doubt feel terrible as your mom does. Don't add to her burden by making her carry this weight too.

Honestly, you sound like a person who has quite a bit of anger which you may want to address with a qualified therapist. I have no doubt that your mom is suffering too yet you act like you are the only one who is.

First off, id like to say I am so sorry about your dog and your father. And I completely understand how angry you must feel and it's very normal you feel this way. It's okay to feel this way but eventually, you have to start letting go of the anger because it will only make you miserable. You should try your best to forgive your mother for her mistakes because you have to remember, she's only human. I'm sure you love her and you being angry at her may only make the problem worse. Perhaps sitting down with her and talking with her will make you and her feel better.

Always remember; your dog and father are both in a better place and they want you to live a happy life. So try forgiving and things will begin to look up :) <3

No, not rational at all.

Accidents happen with your dog.

And nobody should be blamed for a suicide except. The person who killed himself. He eas mentally disdurbed and wouldnt get help. Naggng doeant make people kill themselves. Not getting help when you need it kills people.

Sorry but you ar wrong on both counts.

Blaming someone for death can be a part of the grieving process. Everyone grieves differently but that is definitely something people do. In time you will learn to forgive and forget but right now you have a right to feel angry, I'm not saying you should lash out on your mother and other people but the anger will go away eventually and maybe a few sessions of therapy could help you, it helps to be able to talk your anger out and have someone to listen and guide you

no it is an accident and get over it