Can my ex husbands wife really be OK with this?

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This is my last year at college and the teacher of my calculus class told me I was failing the class and I should get a tutor.  He said they charged $95 per hour.  This was money I did not have. I went through my phone book and called EVERYONE and no one would lend me the money. I was about to give up when my mother suggested I call my ex husband to see if he would loan me some money.  He has since remarried so I knew there was VERY LOW odds he would do it.  I had not talked to him in over 2 years.

I concluded that I had nothing to loose by calling him.  What he said just blew me away.  He said there is no need to go into debt for a tutor. Come over and he would do it for FREE.  That really shocked me.  I wanted with every bone in my body to take him up on his offer because it meant I would graduate on time.  I told him I did not want to cause him any problems with his wife.  He said she finished calculus just 2 years ago and she knew how hard it was.  He also said she would help him tutor me.  WOW WOW WOW.

Could a wife really be OK with her husband tutoring his former wife?  I don’t think I could if the situation was reversed.  Should I take his word that his wife is OK with it or should I call her and ask her if she is OK with him helping me.  The LAST thing I want to do is cause him a problem with his wife.  We did not have any children and we had a friendly divorce.  Can an ex husband and his wife really be that nice.

Maddie · Answer

You should call her and ensure with her she has no problem with it, and make sure to clear the waters over how you do not want to have her feel threatened or imposed in any way or order.  Every woman is different and maybe she is okay with it, but any extra complications that can be added without you calling could mean you won't graduate on time, which will fall back on your life, Good Luck!

keke · Answer

In all honesty I really don't know how to answer this question but here's my best solution I would ask his wife just to be on the safe side of things so that way if you show up to their home it won't be no confusion n just to also be on the safe side if u do go to their home ask again so that way things want turn bad this is the best advice i could give you cause I wouldnt know how to go about this particular situation.

Sue C · Answer

There ARE nice careing people in this world today. Unfortunately, not enuf of them. I dare say if he also offered his wife's help, I'd say it is on the up & up. I would get together with them both & discuss it with both of them together. See what the outcome is. IF they are happily married, have NO reason not to trust each other, you are a fortunate person & will no doubt get that help you need. I trust ALL works out for the best for ALL of you & you end up doing well. You can have an attitude of gratitude for having caring folks in your life...all the best to you, honey...:)

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like you all can act like adults. Take him up on his offer.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow, that is unusual...but there's nothing wrong with that. It just shows their level of maturity, and that they are pretty decent people. Ps...just to be on the safe side, dress down and look as unpretty as possible when you go. An "ugly betty" costume would be ideal. Lol

Anonymous · Answer

Stop selling yourself short. You deserve better.

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Can my ex husbands wife really be OK with this?

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