Catholics, could I marry a girl that had a child out of wedlock>?

You could but I wouldn't recommend it from what you stated about her past. She was with this guy for ten years but they never married there is obviously commitment issues with her.

Another thing is that this is my personal opinion on the matter because I tend to think with my brain instead with my genitals she has a child with this man which means this man will be coming and going in and out of her life (which will become both of your lives) over visiting his child. Do you really want that?

You must read the entire lesson, not just a verse. I assume you are doing this, and just used the verse citation for brevity, but no saying of Jesus is just sitting in scripture: all of them happen within a larger story, and usually there's all kinds of stuff going on all around, all of which is at least potentially important for interpreting.

Also, you need to broaden your net a bit and remember the woman taken in adultery. Your girlfriend has essentially been taken in the act of adultery; that's essentially what being a single parent is. She did not get married; she made some unwise decisions, as we all do from time to time.

Joseph was going to marry Mary, but discovered she was pregnant; he resolved to marry her so that she would not be labeled a whore, and so that the child would have a legitimate father, and later on he would divorce Mary quietly. His intention was to treat the matter in such a way as to reduce the hurt for everyone involved, even though he himself must have been hurt.

This girl needs a companion who will be there for her, and the child is going to need a father in the home where he is being raised, who will always put the needs of that child first -- because this is what parents do.

If you have doubts about this, you must walk away now, no matter how awkward it may be. Better to walk away now than to walk away later when you "just can't take it anymore."

I think I understand. You don't want to come between this man and woman because they had a child together. See how having children changes things? I think it would be right to be extremely cautious here. Technically there is nothing legally in Church law to prohibit you from marrying her. If you have any doubts talk to a priest. The situation calls for prayer and discernment on your part.

You can marry if you are unmarried or, if ever married, your spouse is dead.

The father of a child is not a spouse.

A licit marriage is not always a wise one. Move out of State if you get married.

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You may love her, but apparently you don't love the idea of her child. ... Better you stay out of her life. The child IS a reality.

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