what do you think about kids at weddings? we are contimplaing the idea of just family (kids)?

Guest should not assume their children are invited.

Some Guest will assume their children are invited.

On the invitation make sure it is address to the parents only

Out side envelope would read

Mr and Mrs Smith

Inside envelope would read

Jane and John.

With close friends and family you should be able to spread the info by word of mouth - from your parents and siblings.

If you get back a RSVP with more than the 2 - for the parents-

you will need to make phone calls

I think it should be all or none. Close friends are going to see children at your wedding and wonder why their kids were not invited but others were.

DO NOT put anything on your wedding invitation about a bar - DO NOT put "adults only" It is tacky

And saying the bar is open to 21 and over- has nothing to do with children not being invited. Just means you are not going to serve anyone under the drinking age.

I think, unless you are having a causal reception, where kids can get up and run about - they should not be at a wedding reception for a sit down dinner and dancing.

It is up to the bride and groom.

Your Wedding Your rules. This is Your day and You have every right to invite or not invite anyone You choose. Anyone who has a problem with it does not have to attend.Many persons now have weddings where it cost's $60+ per plate . No reason parents can't ask a family member to look after the little ones for one night. After all it is a Wedding and not a Nursery School and some parents need to recognize and accept this as fact.

When I was little, my parents went to weddings with out us.

If they did take us, it would be an afternoon wedding.

Never to a night wedding until I was 12. My younger brother was, since he was the youngest of all the cousin, they would just left him out.

I do not think young children should ever go to night receptions.

It's a lot for the parents.

In the end, it's up to the couple.

What age or any

It's perfectly acceptable and not uncommon to state on the invite "adults only please". Child free weddings are popular because people have realized over the years that kids really don't have a good time at weddings, and usually ruin the adults good time. That said, no kids means no kids. If you are going to exclude your guests kids, it really looks bad to have your own family's kids there. Are they somehow magically more well behaved than the others? No.

People only assume that their kids are invited if the invitation is addressed to "Mr & Mrs. Smith and Family" or "The Smith Family". But just to be sure, if you don't want kids , you have to say "Adults only please" so there is no question about it. To say "No children" has a negative connotation, so avoid that.

You would look like a real hypocrite if you told them not to bring kids if you are bringing your own kids.

Just put on the invitations that the reception will include an open bar, and is open to 21 and over. Get an open bar. That's the most important feature for a good reception.

Love being at weddings with kids - have been to tons of weddings, and all have had children of all ages. Yes, even evening, formal, traditional weddings.