Is it rude to call someone when you know they are busy?

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At 3:30pm I talked to my fiancé and she asked what time my softball was at, I answered 6:15pm. Later we were in a group conversation and I had mentioned to one of the participants I was going to be at the park after 5pm.

At 5:50pm my fiancé texted me, and then when I didn't respond she call me at 6:58. I answered the phone thinking it was something urgent, but she wanted to talk about what had already been handled in the earlier group text. About 90 seconds into the call I told her "I have to go, love you, bye" because I was needed out on the field.

Now she is upset and has her feelings hurt because I was "rude". I feel that she was being rude by contacting me about already handled issues, especially knowing that I was busy and wouldn't be able to talk or text while playing.

geetarman56 · Answer

Hey! Just because a phone is mobile doesn't mean you have to take it everywhere all the time with you for it to disturb what you're doing. Learn to leabve the phone home when you're involved in a sports activity. There's no call for being interrupted and is not appreciated by others, especially your coach.

Farhan · Answer

I think if you send this entire question to her through email she will understand the whole fact :)

Pain · Answer

Haha! Sounds like the typical woman! Wanting to talk about things that have already been discussed! (No offence, ladies!)

I know exactly what you mean brother. I've experienced this with my girlfriends before. Women's feelings can get hurt quite easily, sometimes when you didn't even do anything wrong. You was just being a man, attending to your duties.

Usually, so that this kind of stuff doesn't happen, I would just not even answer the phone at all, even if it was my girlfriend. I made a decision a long time ago, that if I am busy, I just wont even answer the phone. I have no time for drama. Just let it go to voicemail. You don't always have to explain yourself to people. You have a life to get on with. When YOU are free, then you can give people time. If they don't like that, it's not your problem.

Always be kind, but sometimes you have to be firm with people.

I would only call someone if it was an emergency (if I knew they were busy.) Yes, it can be rude, otherwise.

? · Answer

If this was a one time deal, I wouldn't worry about it.  Yeah, it was a bit rude of her, and if she's annoyed, she'll get over it.  But if she's always doing stuff like this, then she's obviously way too much drama.

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