im supposed to marry a pilot..is it good or bad...I really need help?

Under what circumstances would you consider marrying someone with whom you haven't even had a conversation, just because his family members like how you look and invited themselves into your life? If this is how things are normally done in the culture in which you live, why come to the Internet to ask complete strangers what you should do with your life?

I'm not trying to be confrontational, just figure out where the basis for your questions are coming from. Just because someone "looks cute" and is studying to be a pilot doesn't make him a decent human being. He could be a psychopath ~ you have no idea. His family could be an emotional disaster area ~ you don't know just from seeing them with their "party manners" on. Nobody here can answer that question for you. We're just not qualified to make such decisions. I wouldn't even tell my own children who to marry. Best to marry someone with whom you share interests and cultural compatibilities, and to discover these things for yourself.

Are arranged marriages customary in your culture? This is your future under discussion, so you should have at least some say in it. Talk with your parents and tell them that, while you respect their wisdom and advice, you prefer to get to know someone before committing your life to him. Suggest you have at least a year of dating someone (chaperoned, if necessary) before you agree to marriage.

Why don't you try dating him first to see if you like him and if he's a good man and a good worker?

If you do, enjoy living off welfare.

you should try dating him before you marry