What should I get for my Japanese boyfriend's parents?

It is definitely the custom in Japan to offer a gift when invited to stay in someone's home. A gift is given even when it's just for a shorter visit, such as a dinner.

It needs to be a really nice one, something of obvious top quality. Some thoughts:

– A beautiful picture book of English scenes – castles, shops along the high street, etc. Very little text, since they probably couldn't read it.

– Attractive boxed candy – Chocolates might melt in transit, since it's summer. Perhaps candy that would be soft and chewy, such as gels. Actually Japanese people don't care for sweets so much as westerners do.

– A small clock, or a piece of chinaware, very English in design.

You should do some research on line about Japanese customs, especially gifts. The grandparents will probably have some small present to give you, too – a silk scarf, or a little picture book about Japan. Accept it with both hands, bow, and express extreme appreciation.

LATER: Cara's suggestion is worth remembering – bring a number of small-sized, nicely-wrapped presents to give to family members and friends you meet. It's good to select things that can be packed flat in your suitcase. Any time you meet with folks in Japan, have some with you in your handbag.

I echo Bluebell's suggestion. But I would also find out if you are likely to meet other members of the family, and if so take several small extra presents. My Japanese niece-in-law brings lots of little things when she visits, and nobody is left out, even just odd friends. Little edibles or travel-sized soaps, hand lotions, etc.

Boxed chocolates. An expensive brand, Not hard or chewy. If they themselves don't take chocolate, they can offer it to guests.

Maybe a nice bottle of wine or an items for their home.

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