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Tired of the father of my child not helping with our son (we live together)?

So, first of all we are a young couple. We are 20 years old with a 1 year old baby. I moved with him at his parents house & we'll he never wants to help with my son. I'm a full time student I am taking currently 5 classes this semester & he stopped working for about a couple days he was working 5 hours the most. Anyways, every time I ask him to help with our son he always tells me to stop bugging him that I'm annoying even when he doesn't work he doesn't wanna help. When he would work I would NOT tell him to help me and when I ask him to help me with him I tell him ATLEAST ONE HOUR. Am I seriously asking for a lot!? All day today he's been chillin playing video games and just on his phone while I have been a good mother is it wrong for me to ask him to do his part atleast one hour? I'm just sick and tired of it he NEVER wants to help and when he does it's for not even 30 minutes I feel that's just pathetic I try and give him credit for even those 30 minutes but really it's just annoying that even when he holds him he's coming around me and I'm still somehow helping him. I moved in here for him to do his part in parenting and for him to provide which he hasn't don't either I've been providing for myself & him I'm just tired of it 😞 what should I do?

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  • 7 years ago
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    My sister had the same problem with her baby daddy. Do not let him do that. He needs to know that you BOTH made this beautiful child and it is a partner deal. If he cannot accept that then its time for an ultimatum. Having someone you love not helping you in the way that should be second nature to them, after having a child, is probably one of the most difficult things. And i am really sorry that it is going on. Its easier said then done to tell someone that they need to put in effort or your gone i agree. But sometimes it needs to happen for them to open their eyes and see what they have been missing. If he doesnt see even then, then you dont need that in your or your childs life.

  • 7 years ago

    Give him an ultimatum. Either he behaves like you expect him to, helping to support the family and split the time evenly between you or you will move out and leave him.

    FYI likely his parents may be influencing his behavior. That or his family was mom does all the "child rearing".

    Do you get along with in-laws?

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