My best friend is cheating on her husband and my husband doesn't want me to hang out with her.?

Well, you can understand where he's coming from. If he had a guy friend that he hung out a lot with, found out he was cheater, I doubt you've be enthusiastic in your hubbie hanging out with him.

Just because your friend is cheating doesn't mean you would, but your husband obviously believes this is the case. You told her she should put a stop to it, and yet your husband still thinking that you will still cheat. She can do what she wants, with who she wants and she can make her own decisions about it. Chances are, her affair won't last. Keep trying to talk some sense into her. As long as you have a good, solid friendship there is no reason to stop seeing your friend. Your husband may not talk to her anymore, and that's his choice. But that's no reason for him to not come home, for heaven's sake. Tell him that as far as your marriage, he has nothing to worry about.

Men always have! Always will! Be insecure!

When it comes to women and their cheating gf's!

Because there are some women who will try it!

And may like it to some it's the thrill of getting caught or it's that person who does not know you at all. And yet! You can be open to them or keep things with only just sex.

There are people who can give a man/woman that something that is missing in their relationship that they cannot get from their b/g/f's! Or spouses.

You hubby may be think that if you stay with your gf. You might get introduced to this lifestyle she enjoys.

Remember! Men and their insecurities!

Even though some women are more sure of themselves than others.

It's the others! That scare the crap out of men!!!!!

"How do I make my hubby understand that her cheating is her business and ***won't effect our marriage at all?*** "

Sounds like it already has affected your marriage.

If your child was hanging out with a bad element, wouldn't you have a problem with it? Maybe even insist they not spend time with that crowd? Possibly because you realize that, regardless of intent, people tend to become more like the friends they associate with, right?

You're hanging out with the wrong people. You should be thanking your husband for bringing it to your attention and correct the situation.

By remaining best friends with her, you are saying her behavior is okay. Typically our friends are people with whom we share fairly close basic values/morals. If it were me, I'd tell my friend that I love her and have enjoyed our friendship over the years, but until she decides to stop cheating and do the right thing with regard to her relationship, I won't consider her a close friend anymore and we won't be seeing much (if any) of each other.

If she needs someone to vent to about her marriage or offer moral support or advice, that's fine. She needs to be fixing or ending her marriage, and as her friend that's what you should tell her.

This is sticky. I think your husband is overreacting. Threatening that it might be too late? Now that's ********! I think you should tell your friend you may talk to her, but you don't support her decision and will not hang with her until she makes this right. Then I think you need to talk to your husband. If he apologizes and acknowledges he overreacted, then everything's fine. But if he gets out of control, then you may want to leave him behind.

When you are married, your number one priority needs to be your SPOUSE. This specifically includes your mother, your father, your sisters/brothers, your friends, your BEST FRIEND, and even your children...

Out of all those people, you MUST make your spouse your number one priority. If you wish to make somebody else your number one priority...

... like a child from a previous relationship

... like your best friend from when you both were little girls...

That is a valid CHOICE. Nobody could fault you for that. HOWEVER, if you make that choice, then you are not in the proper mindset to be married, at all.

Right now, your SPOUSE feels threatened by the behavior of your friend, and your SPOUSE does not approve of you supporting that friend in any manner. Your choice is simple, there is no "gray" area here...

You can support your friend, or you can support your marriage. If you choose your friend over your HUSBAND, expect your marriage to fail. And know that when the marriage fails, that was your choice to end it...

Yours is a case of your husband is afraid that her behavior will somehow influence your decision making. He is possibly thinking she is going to get divorced and then will want to party and hang out in clubs with of course you in tow. You need to tell her that you are her friend but you do not support her behavior and will not hang out with her unless she cleans up her act. You need to tell him that she is a good friend and that you will talk to her but not hang out with her until she cleans up her act.

The problem is , birds of a feather fock together . and curiosity opens pathways that could never be opened . in otherwords , you wouldn't think of it but why would your friend , and when you ask yourself that question enough times you start to try to understand her point of view . and once you understand her point of view , well... birds of a feather .

I would have a VERY hard time, perhaps it would even be impossible for me, to be friends with someone while they were doing that.

But your husband is overreacting. Threatening to leave you because you do not do as he says (even if he is right) is abhorrent.

You seem to be surrounded by unreasonable jerks.

Ever thought of just hightailing it outta there?