3 months post sudden death of father, still having mixed feelings and dreams?

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A little background, I'm 23 and 2 months after graduating college...my dad dies just out of the blue while he was visiting family in Brazil. I've lived with my dad my entire life, so need less to say my world is  still warped from his death.

But every now and again I'll have dreams that he comes back to life or something...and we keep making precautions to make sure he doesn't die again. I think because he wanted to go so bad, in real life. Last dream was me at home, and I see a Brazilian area code call the house phone & I panic, thinking it's someone informing us he died again.
I think I'm losing my sanity...

What do you guys think?

Dreamer · Answer

Hi Jess, death of a loved one who has been your whole world is devastating to say the least and this would have a huge impact on your life. Moving on from such a traumatic experience is difficult - very difficult. However, you have to. It is what your dad would want. Yes, he is gone. There is a time to cry rivers of tears. But there is also a time to for you to heal and move on. Again, it is what he would want and you do know this in your heart.

The dreams about him coming back and making precautions  so it doesn't happen again is about your lack of willingness to move on with your life. You are hurt very deeply and you are allowing that hurt to control you. The dream about the Brazilian area code again, is about your lack of willingness to move on. You want him alive and you want to keep him alive and you can't see life any other way - but you need to... face the truth.

I am truly sorry for your loss. Please try to pick up the pieces of your life that remained, and build on that. Make a happy live fro yourself now. Honour his memory, honour him by showing him that you can move on and be successful and happy. It would make him happy wherever he is now.

You are not loosing your sanity - just grieving.

Desperate Wife · Answer

Hi Jess, I am sorry to hear about the loss of your father, which I know is very painful to cope with. Because he played a major part in your life, you will continue to have dreams about him every once in a while for the rest of your life. Your mind remembers him, and he will appear in your dreams. Your mind also recalls the moments that led up to his death, and this is why you are continually dreaming this...as time goes on, you will no longer have this horrific dream, but more pleasant dreams of the wonderful times you have had with your father. He is asleep right now awaiting on the Second Coming of Jesus. Therefore, I will recommend that you hold onto the great memories and wisdoms he shared with you, be faithful to God, and one day,  you will reunite to live with him throughout eternity. Keep the family good name alive.

Anonymous · Answer

I think you were astral projecting and visiting your father

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