Is it normal to be a 35 year old male and still nervous about getting married to a woman and have kids?

Yes. It is perfectly normal to be nervous about getting married to a woman. Even at 35 years old. Marriage is one of the biggest decisions in a persons life and should not be taken lightly. I'm a 38 year old male who has never been married. Why? I could say that it's because "I haven't found the right one" or maybe it's because "I'm not done sewing my oats yet" or my favorite is that "I'm just being too picky." The bottom line is that I am not ready to be married yet. Something to remember is that not everybody gets married.

A woman of your choice. We are women are humans with feelings and not just blow up dolls.

If you want to screw around and avoid monogamy than that's fine it's a choice. But then don't come crying back to tell us that you can't hold onto a loving relationship with anyone.

You just can't have it both ways. Either you love someone and commit to them, or you spend your life floating around having fun just to please your own appetites. (and may end up lonely)

Although people talk about marriages failing, about 50% don't fail. It's a risk we all take, no one has a crystal ball to tell you how it is gong to pan out. I'm married 17 years and still happy. Marriages take work, but if you are selfish and not willing to put the work in - then it could fail.

It's quite obvious you've never been in love before. IF you had, you wouldn't have allll these "what ifs"!!! You have a list a mile long of "what ifs". If you'd even ever truly cared about a woman, you'd know the feelings of being in love, the probability of staying together for the simple sake you love that person!! And, yes, of course cheating IS wrong. When you DO find "the one", you take vows with her to love & honor her. If you do love her, that's exactly what you'd do. I feel when you find that rite person, your whole way of thinking will change. You won't feel as you now feel. You won't want anyone but that ONE person. Wait til you fall in love, you'll then see just what I mean....best to you...:)

Ask me too! Lol. Looking for marriage? In all honesty instead of jumping into a marriage with the WRONG person..wait for the right! Love will find a way..so wait!! You'll be happy u did. U want to be happily married or sadly divorced?

A couple gets married. They then have children. The husband then thinks, "it is just not normal that I get all my lovin from one woman - infidelity is just nature!" And he moves on, leaving behind:

- a devastated wife, who then has to pick up the pieces, try and carry on by herself.

- children who now see daddy only occasionally when he can fit them in - making them feel unloved. Children SUFFER from daddy's lack of devotion and faithfulness.

- children who are ANGRY and blame themselves - if daddy loved us, he would have stayed.. children won't understand your 'wanderlust is just nature' theory - to them - you left because you just couldn't love them enough to stay.

- a broken family, which all adds to our broken society.

Strong marriages are the backbone of a strong society.

You are not really the marrying type.. marriage is the union between two people committed to each other - no, it doesn't always end up that way, but that is how it should at least BEGIN.. your attitude is selfish - thinking of YOUR needs, your wants and desires. Your actions then, have the potential to badly hurt others.. especially the children.

you are jaded by the divorces you see - your whole attitude of "I won't let her take me to the cleaners" etc.. is not love.. you are distrustful of women, afraid of being hurt, afraid of being taken advantage of..your money is very important to you! None of that is LOVE. This attitude you have makes you better bachelor material.. but you know, bachelors end up lonely old men who die alone..

Why not, instead, keep your HEART open to love.. and don't marry unless you plan on staying forever.

Marriage is only designed for women, the certificate makes sure we men don't go around with other women and only secure her and her children. The divorce rate is 50%, which should give you some idea of what marriage should be. Prenups get thrown away, divorce courts favor women more than men. Men are given no mercy when divorce happens.

Since you said its not normal for men to stay with one woman, seems like marriage isn't for you. You need to understand something, the long run of marriage, its a job for us men; for her happiness. Why do you think some of the most common reason for divorce is, boredom. And women initiate most of the divorce because of this.

Date them and move on with the next, no need to seal the deal with the law. Financially, its too risky for men.

Also, get a vasectomy with the paperworks, I heard some women trap men by faking their pregnancy.

Monogamy is not for everyone. It takes a dedicated and smart person to realize what marriage really means and the usefulness of it. I guess it seems fun bouncing around from person to person having meaningless sex. But after a while, *** is just *** and it leaves one feeling empty and alone in old age. I've been with my husband for ten years. I fu*ked around and slept around before I met him. I got tired if it and a little discussed with myself. Not that I was a huge sl*t or anything. But I felt nothing for these people I was with, it became like eating when your not hungry. What's the point if you feel nothing for the person?

You don't have to get married and have kids.. If you really feel this way it would be better if you don't. Nothing wrong with that it's your life and you get to choose to live the way you want.!

If you waited this long, chances are you're beyond your hitch point. It's a lonely life without a mate in your 50's or 60's; I hope you enjoyed making that money!

Ask me too! Lol. Looking for marriage? In all honesty instead of jumping into a marriage with the WRONG person..wait for the right! Love will find a way..so wait!! You'll be happy u did. U want to be happily married or sadly divorced?