What would you do? I rent a room to a woman who has had breast cancer in the past.?

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She is free of cancer now and has been free for several years. She  blames severe forgetfulness that affects the home such as leaving the water running), on her “chemo brain”.

I hear her snoring as loud as a bear and also have heard her berating stop and then gasp-(through her door). Should I tell her she may have sleep apnea? She is a very forgetful person, leaves doors open, lights on, and is not at all considerate of others.

She blames others roommates for her problems, and takes antidepressants and anti-psychotics and claims to have severe anxiety. I see her as acting sleep deprived. I am not sure though.

Mainly is it beyond my right or trespassing on her personal life to tell her she might be deprived of oxygen as her reason for inability to cope?

All the other roommates get along and are over age 50. She is 56 and had a 4 year degree in social work. She is not fitting in.

I could just give her 30 days notice but should I tell her? Or should I just evict??

I am not asking do much for legal advice as What would you do?? Many thanks.

Nuff Sed · Answer

As the owner, you have the right to simply terminate her tenancy. The normal way is to give 30 (or sometimes 60) days of notice that the tenancy will be terminated and that she will face eviction if she is unwilling to vacate by that time. State laws vary as to specific rights and time-frames for renters who are sharing the premises with the landlord. You do not generally need any "reason" to terminate a tenancy. "It's not working out" is a perfectly good reason, if anyone asks.

If you want to be extremely nice, you could have a discussion about "certain rules" that she has violated and give her a chance to clean up her act and stop disturbing you.

MissAnonymous · Answer

could you possibly talk to her? some people just don't fit in, are born like that, you cant force them into someone theyre not. so if she doesn't fit in, then leave her, so be it. she's forgetful, it comes with old age honey you must understand that. but the rudeness...maybe just crankiness? does she not enjoy something where she lives in? she has a problem (not her sleep problem). talk to a doctor perhaps? she needs some help - someone needs to be that hero and first one to reach out and help her get through her hard times...if youre considerate of others by an extra-high standard they should start picking up and showing consideration eventually
good luck & God bless you!

Jerry · Answer

Frankly your in a position to help someone and I think you'd be upset with yourself if you just blew it off.

When some people are pressured they act in ways they normally wouldn't and she might be one of those. What you do for her could be a big deal for both of you

FunkyMonkey · Answer

As a landlord its not really your place to point out areas of her personal life that are out of balance. However it is perfectly appropriate to ask her if she's comfortable sleeping in your space and ask if there's anything you could do to make it more comfortable for her. Just a thought

Kevin · Answer

People come and people go. sometimes you make them, sometimes they just go.

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