Gender studies: If societal expectations are "oppressive", why not become reclusive?

First, no, it is NOT force, to prevent some from wrecking the lives of others -- unless you consider ALL legitimate law enforcement illegitimate force.

If you think laws against murder are force, then you're just completley confused, and not even human at all.

Why not become reclusive So we should give up ALL our lives in society because some freaks can only live with others when they can enslave them?

No, again, if you were even slightly capable of any HUMANITY at ALL, you'd never insist on that.

If misogynists, racists, and homophobes can't bear being around CIVILIZED human beings who don't hate all women, non-Whites, and non-straights, then the misogynist, racist, homophobes should lock yourselves away in closets and never come out.

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Let us HUMANS live freely.

that would be a council of despair, to abandon the struggle for freedom.

“When we only name the problem, when we state complaint without a constructive focus or resolution, we take hope away. In this way critique can become merely an expression of profound cynicism, which then works to sustain dominator culture.”

― Bell Hooks, Teaching Community: A Pedagogy of Hope

That's kind of a lousy idea. Now I don't find social norms to be oppressive, but the idea that if you don't like something you should just shut up about it is really . . . um, what's the word, oh yea, stupid.

As a member of society I have a voice, and thanks to notions of civil liberty, how I use that voice is up to me. So for instance, if I think gays should be able to marry and adopt I can voice that and even protest, so long as it's peaceful. And if you don't like it, as much as I might wish you wouldn't, you can voice your displeasure.

Oh and let's throw in a qoute, don't want to be up staged. So let's see . . . here's a good one “Then someone came to me and said

"The little fishes are in bed."

I said to him, I said it plain,

"Then you must wake them up again."

I said it very loud and clear:

I went and shouted in his ear."

Lewis Carroll, Humpty Dumpty's Song.