My husband recorded my 13 year old in the shower?

I'm gonna go against the grain here.

I don't see a problem. Everyone makes mistakes. He was probably just really horny and curious, and he got caught up in it.

A lot of dads are attracted to their daughters, they'll never admit it though. A couple here and there will do these kinds of things and once in a while get caught.

It's not the end of the world, he's not a predator, he was just curious. Nothing wrong with that. It doesn't take away from all those years of good parenting and being a good husband. Don't let a stupid one-off cloud your judgment.

I mean, he's only human. What if the daughter is a supermodel and everyone else thinks she's hot? The father can't magically be immune to that just because she's a daughter, it can be hard to control.

Nobody was harmed, nobody got hurt. It wasn't physical sexual contact or him saying dirty things to her. Trust me, it coulda been much much worse, but this is nothing. If there was physical contact or him saying dirty things to her, then you should be concerned, but otherwise, no. She's old enough too, it wasn't like she's a 5 year old girl.

Look at all the bright sides of optimism here, don't look at the one negative.

So, it's all good.

In several countries, age of consent and having sex at 13 is normal. Everyone views it fine. Mother nature even agrees (periods). You said she looks 18, so come on, give him a break.

Just ignore what happened, people are taking this way too seriously.

Edit:

Look, just tell the guy to confess to the girl. Then let the girl decide.

If the girl felt uncomfortable before, or reveals things that he did to her instead of this one-off incident, then re-evaluate the situation and lean towards something more drastic.

With respect.... Curiousity or not, that is sexual intent towards a minor!!! As previous people have stated, he knowingly went to the extent of setting the phone up and catching actual footage of an innocent child, YOUR CHILD. He is indeed a very very sick individual. even with councelling (which, yes that does take alot) it will make no difference. If someone was intent on doing this action then they will not change from a few sessions of "tell me about your mother." Ask yourself the question... what would you have done if you would have not caught him in that moment?? Then it progressed further. Would you still allow that sick twisted creep near your child? By the way a mothers job is to put the safety of their child before any thing or anyone else. If that was my child whether i loved that person or not they would be in a land fill site! Also just to clarify, yes men are human, they are attracted to beauty. BUT there is a limit! There are so many angles to look at this in but the bottom line is that he is a border line peadofile, who you are allowing near your child, knowing that he already has a facination with her. Secondly, how would her actual father feel if he was to find out later if things actually got further? If a friend came to you and told you what you had just written would you react in the same way? This is not a rant just a well deserved wake up call. This is just my opinion, however I would just say put your child first.

Being a fifteen year old girl if I personally discovered my step-father was doing this I would hope my mother would turn him into the police. If she didn't I would disown her and never look back while pressing charges on both her and my dad. This is entirely unaccusable. You should be ashamed of the fact you’re doing nothing about this. Why are you on here? You should be at the police station and locking him up behind bars. Have you thought at least once that this could trash your daughter’s mental health? That she’ll never be able to approach another man ever due to what your sick husband did? She is going to be terrified. Put your selfish love aside for your husband and put your child first. They are your soul responsibility, the love and joy you brought into the world. What he did was child-pornography which is illegal. You will be charged with the same if you do nothing as you’ll be accessory after the fact. So get off your butt and turn his *** in. He should never be aloud near your children or any other minor again. Fyi, he was ‘distraught and upset’ because he got caught. Now he’s scared shitless of being in the slammer—which is exactly where he belongs. Don’t let him guilt trip you into thinking otherwise.

Oh my god that's horrible! I'm 13 too and if I found out that I was being recorded while I was in the shower, I would kill the whole world. Your daughter will be hurt and disturbed. Your husband is supposed to be a father to your daughter and shouldn't do such a thing. Maybe you should see if he does something like that again and if so, you should have a serious talk with him

It's not even close to fall into the category of a mistake, it is a serious crime. If you compare this act to a murder, it is a first degree murder by comparison, why? because he planned it, and it is only a plan "A" and for sure there are some more plans probably B and C after plan "A" has been successfully executed. The "B" should be to sell the video to people who operated child pornography and the "C" is the price of the video.

The scale of a crime is measured in the basis of "intent", when the intent to do the crime is maximized, the crime committed will be rated as "first degree crime".

In his case there are 3 intentional convictions against him;

1.) intentionally planned to record her.

2.) Intentionally placed the cell phone in the basket and thirdly,

3.) Intentionally press the cell phone's recording

button on.

To support his intentions, the cell phone's recording mode Does Not automatically turn on with out selecting and pressing the specific recording button. therefore he did not make a mistake but he committed a serious crime.

His voluntary action to see a councilor is just a smart drama intended to fool you and everybody as a cover up to promote that he is just being curious. He is old enough to differentiate between curiosity and a crime.

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This is not acceptable your husband before your daughter right now and that's totally not acceptable and I can't believe you would actually be on here asking a question instead of going to the cops getting him arrested I don't know what state of mind that you're in that is not acceptable at all you don't just record a 13 year old girl taking a shower that's freaking child pornagraphy if you don't know ma'am you should really be ashamed of yourself if my mom ever did this to me I would be so upset and like I wouldn't forgive her and I'm 16 years old he needs to be in jail!!!!!!

I had a 13 yr old step daughter and I think shes crazy beautiful and she has done sexual stuff around me in the past, even as far as putting her vajingo on my mouth while I was laying down a few times, she is no slut she just liked me. After awhile of me telling her mom and all that... I realised she was in love with me, I'm young and attractive and the age difference is almost the same from mine and hers as it is between mine and her mothers. Even though she feels that way towards me and of course I love her I would never film her in the bathroom nude, that's a bit much, that's shady and disrespectful to her. Even if she is young she is a person with rights. Even if the age of consent was 13 which it was in a few countries as little as 2 years ago.. he shouldnt be videotaping a girl showering and pooping. that's not legal in any country! People need time to be free, I dont care how in love or obsessed or horned out he is.

Your husband is upset and distraught because he's been caught.

You have no idea what he has done before?

Exactly what was he curious about?

Counseling is for people with serious problems - not a sudden flash of curiosity.

It's more likely to avoid the consequences of being caught.

And what was your daughters reaction? She must have been told so that she can take precautions - self protection. Or are you waiting for her to get more seriously hurt?

This should be a police matter.

Children must be protected - not sacrificed.

Sometimes people do indeed make a stupid mistake of this nature - about 1 in 10,000

I'm sorry but you're utterly despicable...Why would you need a second opinion on this? That's like asking "Should I watch out for traffic when crossing the street?"...As a 17-year-old whose been gawked at by creeps in public since she was 12, I can tell you for a fact that if I found out that someone I actually loved and trusted did that to me behind my back AND my own mother KNEW about it but CHOSE to do nothing, not only would I never forgive her but I would press charges against both of them and completely cut them both out of my life. And if they had done anything to me I would blame her for intentionally failing to prevent it...Would you want that to happen to you and your daughter? Do the right thing before he does something to her that's even more irrevocable than what he's already done without her knowledge, if he hasn't already that is (because you've obviously proven to be no super mom XP or any mother at all really) I just hope you realize that you're not only risking her physical, emotional, mental, and psychological safety but your freedom as well- if anything happens to her, the police will find out you knew about it and they'll arrest you for covering it up, you'll be considered an accessory to the crime and wind up going down with him. If not for your daughter then at least for your own sake, save your soul.

P.S. You better pray he hasn't uploaded those videos online or sold them to anyone, which is most likely the case...You're already playing with some serious charges, production of child pornography is bad enough, you don't want distribution added to that list...And FYI the minute the two of you tell a counselor what he did they'll be legally obligated to contact authorities and DCF