Women, need advice on first date etiquette for men?

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I'll break it down into a few numbered bulletins (forgive me, I'm an over thinker):

1. I know I should open doors for her, but does that include my car door?
2. My car is old and it squeaks when I turn the wheels, is it embarrassing to be picked up and driven around in this sort of vehicle?
3. It would seem to me that truely listening to her and responding is probably the most important part of the date. Is that true?
4. If she insist on splitting the bill, is it okay to let her?
5. I know kissing on the first date is most often a no-no, so when i walk to the door, how should i leave it to let her know i want to see her again? A hug? A peck on the cheeck?
6. How does mini golf and fro-yo sound for originality, fun, and ability to have conversation?

We are 20 and 21 years old, and this will be my first official "first date" ever. We don't know each other well; we've only met briefly once or twice. She baby sits my boss' kids and it's my boss who is wanting to set us up.

Ariel · Answer

1. Can't you put some WD40 on the door to make it not squeak? 2. Maybe she would feel more comfortable driving to the date location by herself? Maybe you should ask what she prefers? 3. Yes 4. No, pay for the whole thing or she is going to think you're cheap 5. Maybe give her a flower or something sweet, NO kissing unless she makes a move to kiss you first. 6. Excellent ideas! Do not go all Adam Sandler in Caddie Shack on the mini golf course! Sounds good, and if there is a lull in the conversation maybe bring up work or something.

♠ Merlin ♠ · Answer

1 - yes its nice to have a car door opened, but not essential
2 - no its not embarrassing at all, quirks are fine
3 - being interested in her is fine, but add to the conversation, ask relevant questions and do speak about yoruself too
4 - tell her you are hoping there will be a next time and she can treat then (if you are hoping that is)
5 - by all means let her know you hope to see her  again, and if in doubt about kiss, a kiss on the cheek is nice without being too forward
6 - sounds ideal, you can laugh at yourselves even if conversation dries up

relax, thast the most important thing, dont be stiff or worry
i hope you have a great time

MM · Answer

#3 answers most of your other questions, so I'm going to start with that one: yes, you should pay attention to her and what she likes.  Which means if you get it into your head that you have to try and do things one way and she'd prefer another, you're going to be in trouble.  Ask her if mini-golf sounds good, offer to get the door, offer to pay, but if she insists she's got it or has another idea, then take her at her word and go with that.  Anyone who is going to fault you for not reading her mind (or for not being able to afford a better car) is not really someone you want to date long-term.

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Women, need advice on first date etiquette for men?

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