Do you and/or your spouse enjoy cuddling at night?

We both enjoy and love to cuddle, not just at night when we are in bed, it's whenever we are together and we get a few moments to ourselves. I like to look lovingly in his eyes and touch him. He does the same but touches me more aggressively since his hormones usually kicks in much more than mines. We are very touchy feeling people especially towards one another. It would be very odd for us if we went to bed without touching/cuddling or talking to one another before going to sleep or when we wake up in the morning. We've always been that way since we first dated over 15 years ago. Still the same now even with 2 kids, there's always room for some private time.

Everyone is different. Early in marriage we cuddled every night at bedtime, but that would last about 30 seconds as he falls asleep FAST. I'd roll over and read. Now, he snores so much and his phone goes off all hours as he is on call 24/7 that I sleep in a different room. We have always had separate blankets as he has to sleep with the blanket all tucked in the mattress like they do at hotels, and I have to have it all wadded up around me. Each of us thinks the other is bizarre. Now, back rubs and lotion rubs before bedtime, I miss if it goes too long without one.

My boyfriend and I can't stop cuddling. I feel bad for you because that would suck and I would never feel wanted or loved but my boyfriend always snuggles me and we talk and laugh before bed and kiss each other and he will trace his fingers on my arm and back and play with my hair. He's in the air force and works at nights so his sleep pattern is off so he usually naps when I fall asleep asleep and he tells me everyday that he loves how I look when I sleep and that I'm so beautiful to him. Honestly, I don't know what to tell you try talking to him about being more intimate.

Well if you do the same exact thing every night, then it would get really boring. So are you a man who likes variety or do you prefer a routine? Are you just nosey about what goes on in other people's beds or do you need help to spice things up with your wife, because she is bored and waits for you to fall asleep before she goes to bed? Talk to us....we are listening : ) With your additional comments it sounds like you are having some bedroom problems. Maybe if you made your wife more important then all the other stuff and went to bed the same time your wife does, then maybe you would have a normal sex life.

He sounds very detached and not very in love.

I read some of your questions from the past of him, when you guys got married you wanted to build your own home he refused to even consider it, he wanted the home he wanted and your opinion didn't matter. Then you asked another question about him because he never ever gets jealous of other men approaching you or even grabbing your breasts, he won't even stand up for you and tell the guy that was inappropriately touching your breast to back off, you had to fend the guy off yourself. Then now he won't even touch you to cuddle, ever and he doesn't like you touching him during sex either.

I'm not sure how you've managed this long with such a dry, boring and detached man.

why don't he want to be touched. that is odd. I love to cuddle. when my husband was alive we use to cuddle because I would get cold. but he had a lot of body heat so we couldn't cuddle too long because I would start to sweat. if you are in a cold climate you should get your own comforter so you can be warm and not let him have it. maybe you need to invest in about two or three.

This is weird in all sorts of ways. You guys have your own separate blankets? But you share a bed?? Why?

Cuddling/touching IS intimacy. People who love each other touch each other frequently and lovingly.

My husband and I cuddle every night, and we constantly touch/hug/kiss each other throughout the day. When we're ready to sleep we go to separate sides, but both of us love being caressed, rubbed, tickled, etc.

My first husband was a cuddler. He loved to 'spoon'. There were times when I'd have to ask him to back off a bit, if it was during the warm months and I couldn't sleep because I was too hot when he held me.

My second husband wasn't much of a cuddler. He'd do it, but once we fell asleep we both tended to go our own way (on the bed). If we touched during the night, that was fine, but there was no effort to hold one another or touch all night.

Hubby is cuddled up again my back now as I play on the phone... That would be a deal breaker for me but I guess if that's the only bad part about him it's not the end of the world.

My favorite way to fall asleep is with my head on my husband's chest and his arm around me. It's a no-fail way for me to sack out. And then when he's ready to sleep, he rolls me over so he can sleep comfortably. If it's cold, we are much more likely to snuggle and be close together throughout the entire night, but in the warmer months we both like our independent sleeping spaces so we don't get too hot. If I was cold and we only had one blanket, he would absolutely share with me, and share body heat too.