What changes in a relationship once you are married?

Of course relationships Change after marriage - as they should. Marriages hopefully change and GROW though - change isn't a bad thing if you are both growing together, loving, devoted, honest, unselfish, caring for eachothers needs more then your own. Marriage changes you because the union is, or should be different, You have made promises with eachother to do, be, act, etc as "ONE" - some people get lazy after marriage and then the marriage goes SOUTH instead of growing together. How that change affects you will be up to you both.

I can only speak for myself. We lived together for five years before getting married back in the 1970s. To be honest, marriage was contemplated as more of an administrative convenience because, at the time, it was harder for a non-married partner to be named in life insurance and pension policies. There was also 'married couples tax allowance' at the time in the UK which, while modest, helped in difficult financial times. We felt our relationship was fine and that we were already committed to each other.

To be honest, I didn't expect any change by being married. I was wrong, and it took me by surprise in a positive way.

The fact of standing up in front of all those people and making promises to each other somehow added something - like it was a life choice rather than a convenience, that we put each other first, that we were proud to make our commitment public and that we were an item rather than a couple.

It has not changed how we relate to each other. No one is boss. No one tries to control the other. We are equals in every way. We still respect each other's private space. Maybe it helps that we already had 100% confidence in each other before we got married ... I don't know. Certainly, I don't regret it.

No relationship is 100% perfect 100% of the time but, provided there is respect, compromise and genuine affection, it can be very good.

I haven't been married that long so I can't really answer that skillfully. However, my grandparents have been married for a very long time (40+ years), and I always try to take advice from them, so does my dad. I was told that there is two things that will break you in a marriage: finances and kids. Learn to control those two and you'll have a better marriage. My grandpa controls the finances. My grandmother is responsible with money when he gives it to her. He'll tell her only spend this much, or only take this much out of the account, and she'll do it. She won't take any extra out or anything. He handles all the bills and she likes it that way because she doesn't have to worry about it. That is where trust comes in. She trusts my grandpa to handle all of it and he does, but that was an agreement they made together. They grew up in a way different time where one parent could work and the other could stay home and watch kids though, and that is what they did. My dad does that with my step mom too but he has to work a lot in order to provide for them. He works 60-70 hours a week, 12 hour shifts. Works from 6 in the morning, till 6 at night. Goes to bed at 9 and wakes up at 4. He's been doing it for over 10 years so he's gotten used to it. My parents and grandparents are always telling me and my husband that we need to compromise on a lot of things. Right now my husband and I have the typical 50's set up right now. He works while I stay home and clean. I am on social security disability because of my back but am looking into getting part time work through social security to bring a little bit more money into the household. Right now we share the finances. I'm the only one with a bank account right now so we just share it. We always make sure to talk about our finances together and try to come up with a compromise. We don't EVER hide money from one another. We also lived together for over a year before getting married. When living together you can't hide your undesirable traits for long so when they come out you have to decide if you can each handle it. When I moved in with my husband I realized that he loves video games, and lives like a pig. At first it was a problem, but after awhile it started getting under control. I still have to clean up after him once in awhile but it's not nearly as much as a problem as when we first started living together. He made that change for me.

What happens varies from couple to couple. If the 2 live together prior to marriage, there's less chance things will change after marriage (they'll already have a routine and way of doing things). For other couples, it's hard to say if there is a "change" if they weren't living together previously, because their whole situation changes (living apart to living together) so there's nothing to compare it to.

Ideally, there shouldn't be any drastic personality or behavioral changes. The two people marry because they dig their partner as they are, so changing can screw up their compatibility (sometimes so much the marriage ends).

For our relationship, we were both grown up before we got married(I was 35, she was 41). We each maintained our own home prior to marriage, so we each did everything. Initially, there was the power struggle during the honeymoon year for who controls what. After that was completed, we each tend to our own personal strengths. That is where things are now. I am the guy with the really long term plans including finance, I deal with energy usage, and taxes. She takes care of the inside of the house, mortgage, food and phone. What each of us spends on the household operations is about equal due to our geographic location. (In the northeast, US, your land and school taxes can easily be higher or equal to your mortgage.) Long term finance became the basis for the purchase of a company for my wife to run, so I deal with large picture items. At this time, we are accustomed to the other and we each put up with the others eccentricities. You will learn about that someday.

Eccentricities? With energy, I prefer the use of 40 year old carbon taking the place of carbon sequestered millions of years ago. (wood heat supplementation of our natural gas heating system.) More use of natural air flow instead of air conditioning in the summer. The clearing and planting of acres of road frontage for my garden, ect... Lets face it, my wife puts up with a lot of eccentricities that I don't think anyone else would have. So things change once you get married. As long as you don't have a child during that first year, it is easier to work through the issues when it is just the two of you.

My wife and I got married almost 29 years ago, so it's a little hard to remember, but I can't think of anything that really changed. But, we're pretty simple people - and that's the way we like it! I'd say my biggest personal change happened with the birth of my first daughter, about 7 years into our marriage. Her arrival somehow, almost magically (it seemed to me) transformed me into a more mature and patient man. That certainly doesn't happen for all new fathers, though!

Not a whole lot- I married someone who was right for me. The first thing I thought of that is not necessarily a bad thing, is that we went out less. Once we were married with a house, it was just as well to stay in and eat dinner at home, then watch a movie in the comfort of our living room, rather than drive into the city, pay to dine out, and then head to a movie. We still go out, it just scaled back a bit.

2 ppl should grow more intune with each other once married* build a stronger foundation of love between the two of you* some ppl change for the better and some not so much* it's up to the couple involved* COMMUNICATION TRUST HONESTY & RESPECT are the KEYS to a long healthy relationship, without those you have nothing!*~

Ours did not change, other than that we now live together and didn't until the wedding. The point of dating is to get to know the other person well enough so there's no big surprise after you're married.

no actually.. alot of things Change when i got married.. i had him for 4 years and after that we decided we wanna get married.. he became more responsible.. more Controlling.. ofcourse since am married now, i dont get to flirt or do These singlehood things anymore.. so i became strict a bit and so did he.. u have obligations towards both families and u Need to Keep reminding each other.. fights will increase but they are sweet!

see.. personality will Change cs the Brains got maturer.. its bound to happen, and the strugghle is to survive that stage.