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Kit asked in PetsDogs · 6 years ago

Adopted a dog, but it didn't work out. Gave the dog to a good home, but foster owner is really upset.?

A while back I adopted a dog from a friend. It was going to be euthanized due to some fear aggression issues. I took the dog, and took time to train it. Unfortunately we just didn't seem to click, and this dog tried to bite me a few times, and even attacked another friend unprovoked. I was really close to having the dog put down. But I have a relative that is a vet, and is very good with fearful/aggressive animals, so I gave the dog to him to train. His friend actually fell in love with this dog, and they have an amazing bond. It's like they were made to be together. The dog is just so happy-go-lucky with this guy. It's night and day to what the dog was like before. In fact, I was so convinced that these two were made to be together, that I gave the dog to this guy. They're getting along very well together, and I get frequent updates.

The foster owner wanted to see the dog recently, and got very upset when I said I'd given it away to a good home. They insisted that they could have trained the dog, and would've taken it back. But one of the things he was training was for it to give kisses by nipping, and that didn't sit well with me when the dog was already known to bite, so I didn't think he was the right owner for this dog.I've tried explaining that the dog has a permanent home, and is happy. But the foster owner doesn't seem to care about that, and just wants the dog back. He's even criticizing and insulting me on Twitter, but I'm just ignoring it. Should I just ignore him?

Update:

Edit: The dog was set to be euthanized and no paperwork was signed when I picked up the dog. I called my friend a "foster owner" for lack of a better term, but they were just keeping the dog until they could find it a home. They only had the dog for about 3 weeks.

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  • 6 years ago

    I am a foster for a few different organizations. You have to understand when a foster or organization chooses you to care for the animal, they are trusting you will take good care of them for the remainder of their life. When I foster animals the new owner is to sign a contract saying if for any reason they can no longer keep the pet the pet will be given back to the rescue group. You should have given the pet back to its foster rather than take it into your own hands. I'm sure you gave the animal a good home, the foster doesn't know that however. They are way wrong to bash you on social media, I would report them for sure. Keep in mind everyone wants what is best for the animal, their opinion on what is best is different right now. I would report their bad behavior to Twitter. Ignore them, do not reply at all. Let twitter handle it. This only makes them look bad. If the dog was going to be put down then why does this person suddenly care so much? I think you did the right thing, the dog now has a loving home instead of a small cage waiting to be put to sleep. Glad you found the pup a good home, in the end that's all that matters.

  • 6 years ago

    Oh no. When a group takes a dog in and you agree to foster, you have no rights to give the dog to someone else. It is against our groups rules. The group did not give up rights and you most likely signed a contract. We track our dogs and fosters do not own the dogs. We put a lot of money into foster dogs and expect the fosters to follow the rules. We sued a foster for doing just what you did. We always have rights over our animals that we adopt out and can reclaim them from anyone that doesn't follow our guidelines. You don't have the right to give the dog to anyone. We have a set of rules that are in the animals best interest and our contracts say that if you ever decide to get rid of the animal, he must be returned to our group. How do you know it was a good home? Why is the foster upset? Why do you think you have the right to decide what a good home is? Our rules are legal and we went to court to prove it. We actually had someone sell an adopted animal. Just can't do that. When you sign an agreement, you have to follow the rules or lose the dog. Of course our contracts were done by an attorney so that they are iron clad. You broke the rules.

  • Anonymous
    6 years ago

    If the dog was set to be euthanized, then I don't see what the issue is. If you provide some more information to the friend what happened it is probably OK. If I would give somebody a dog I wouldn't be really happy if the dog gets passed on without me knowing about it. However if the dog ended up with somebody who really clicked with the dog I would be all for it. Just being told that the dog went to a good home wouldn't do it for me, that is pretty generic and could mean anything. I would suggest offer the friend you got the dog from to meet the dog and the new owner and that should make them happy.

  • Laura
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    You say foster owner. Usually foster owners are from a shelter, and shelter adoptions have a specific clause in their paperwork that says that if the dog doens't work out with you, you need to return it to the shelter. If this person was not a foster owner from a shelter, then they are just a person trying to find a home for the dog who had good intentions. This is not a foster owner. This is just a person with good intentions.

    I think that you did the right thing. Teaching a dog to give kisses, and teaching a dog to nip are very different things. It sounds like the new owner of this dog has really brought him out of his shell and is doing very well with him. If the former owner is not from a shelter, they can suck it up and deal with it. If they are from a shelter though, you will need to look at the adoption paperwork to see if you violated the terms of the adoption.

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  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    I got and get that reaction. I had a Bulldog (English), before my current dog, and actually had people cross to the other side of the street while walking her. I even had one lady ask why I bought a baby killer, when I had 2 children and a small baby. I told that lady off. My Bulldog (Lacy) was the sweetest soul, and there is no way she would hurt my kids. She was very protective of them, and I am sure she saved my daughter one day. A guy came up to our fence and was trying to talk my 7 yr old girl into coming up to the fence. Lacy got between them and started barking. She would not let him in the gate, or let my daughter get to the gate. I went to the door to see what was going on and the man bolted. Lacy got a nice treat that day. I also get this reaction with my Boxer. I am used to it by this point, and though it angers me, I try to educate people. I tell them that my dog is sweet and gentle, just because she is big does not mean she is bad. I let my kids pet dogs that we see out walking, but the rule is they must stay out of the dogs reach till they ask the owner if it is ok? If the owner says Yes I have no problem with my kids petting any dog, but I am always right next to them. I do not want my kids to grow up afraid of animals, especially since my oldest boy wants to be an animal conservationist. Add I guess my dog (boxer) maybe scary looking, but I can not see how with those big droppy ears, and those sweet puppy eyes. I just see the big softy I know she is.

  • Alexa
    Lv 6
    6 years ago

    When he adopted the dog out to you, he gave up the rights to it. You can't just give up a dog and then take it back once it's better behaved. What is the matter with him?!

    You did the right thing IMO. You gave it a shot, you tried and you found someone who could give this dog what he needed and whom he bonded with.

    Just ignore him completely and if he gets nasty contact the police. You have done nothing wrong.

  • 6 years ago

    Ignore them. People who do any kind of animal care, should feel great when the animals find happiness. That's what it is all supposed to be about. If they are not happy for the dog and are insulting you on the internet in front of others, then they are not worth arguing with.

    Thank you for helping the helpless creature find love.

  • Ocimom
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    Sorry but they gave up the rights when the dog was given to you. The dog seems to have a more comparable home now. Tell them that they no longer have rights as nothing was signed.

  • Anonymous
    6 years ago

    Yes, just ignore him, you adopted the dog, so it became your dog. You could do anything with it that you wanted including finding it a new home. Why would you give it back to someone who gave it to you?

  • 6 years ago

    Looks like that person considers you an enemy and not a friend if he's criticizing and insulting you on Twitter. Ignore him. Block him from your Twitter if that's possible.

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