My best friend and I got into a huge argument?

From reading this, I got the impression that you enjoy helping your friends and family whenever possible. I also understand that you would prefer to receive every bit of kindness you give, but being kind to others and doing them favors does not make them obligated to you, in any way. We seem to be living in the middle of a "give and get back culture", but life doesn't always work out that way. To give help to someone only to expect them to help you later on down the road is not a charitable act, it is a moral debt you are imposing upon others. People will generally view this as a selfish expectation that they fear will cause them to feel obligated to you for their generosity.

Whatever you give to someone else is a gift and if it is not, it will be considered a loan. Imagine giving a homeless woman sixty cents and then coming back the next day, asking for eighty cents. That's basically the same idea as this. We can't also give with the expectation that we will be compensated for our generosity and good deeds. If that is our only motivation, we might as well withdraw any and all altruistic intentions we may have in the future, until we can be sure that when we give, we are giving, not indebting.

As for your friend, she was clearly hurting when her uncle was ill. I would assume this means that they were very close. From your perspective, it seems like it would make sense for this sort of hardship to be like any other that your friend has faced, but a scenario such as this requires even greater understanding and empathy. Often times, when someone snaps at you, it is not a reflection of their character, it is just a reflection of the pain that they are experiencing in the moment. I assure you, she didn't intend to seem ungreatful in any way, but it sounds like she just wanted to be left alone. I'm getting the impression that your friend's ability to cope has been considerably compromised by her uncle's decline in health. I could be wrong, but her uncle sounds like he is more than just a little bit sick. It sounds like he maybe very well, facing the possibility of death. In this instance, he would be in a place called "hospice", a place of care where a person is so close to death that they are expected to pass away, very soon!

"I understand you're upset but everyone else in this damn world is and I got fed up"; I want you to re-read that sentence to yourself several times and then ask yourself what your mindset was, when you wrote that. That sentence comes across as extremely selfish and completely lacking in empathy. What that sentence basically translates to is something similar to this; "You're upset, but so is everyone else and that means that you need to stop being upset, because your problems are no worse than everyone else's!". "Futhermore, what you are going through right now is no big deal, because of that!". When you say in your question that someone else's suffering is unimportant because everyone else suffers, that could easily come across as being cold and uncaring. Suffering is universal, just because a person's pain seems to be less, doesn't necessarily mean that it is. Based on her reaction after this sentence, it sounds to me like you ACTUALLY told her this! If so, I feel that this definitely warrants a major apology.

If you did say that to her, then you WERE "giving her attitude" and that sentence may have come across as if you were expecting her to simply ignore her pain by acting as if nothing was wrong. Do you see the problem here? "and it really hurt me because I couldn't believe she would say that so I tried to hurt her back as well"; She was already hurting, so your reaction was to hurt her back? I understand being angry in the moment, but don't you realize that her reaction was in response to your insensitivity of the situation and that by hurting her, you were doing so in order to make her pay for defending herself? This is why being vindictive almost never pays during a negative social situation. You feel better in the moment and for awhile afterwards, but if you backtrack to analyze the situation, I think you'll find that your overreaction only escalated the situation to what it is now; a complete disaster! "but I was just so hurt"; and that makes it ok? I know it might seem like I'm trying to guilt trip you, but I'm really just trying to get you to understand where you went wrong. Since this happened quite some time ago, it's probably going to be very hard to fix, if not impossible. More than likely, your friend has already moved on and will most likely continue to have contempt for you, no matter what. The best you can do is at least try to apologize now and hope that your apology is well-received (but I wouldn't get my hopes up, if I were you)." she told our other friends as well about it because now they won't even talk to me anymore"; She most likely told her friends about it, because she couldn't believe that you would try to take a very painful situation and turn it around to make it all about you. Her friends won't talk to you anymore, because they understand that your words and behaviors were insensitive.

"She also invited all of them to her graduation party except me and is flaunting it all over her social media where she knows I'll see it"; Well, from a moral point of view I don't necessarily approve of that either, but I can understand why she would do that. To her, it probably seemed like it was the best way to get back at you for not being empathetic and sympathetic about her uncle's poor health. My final point is that I don't think you're a terrible person. Honestly, you seem kind of young, like you don't know any better. That's why it's probably best to explain this to you NOW, so that something like this never happens again.

It depends on how badly you want to be friends. She doesn't seem to be treating you as a best friend should, but you're acting perfectly normal. You can try and apologise once if you really want to continue being friends, because there's a chance she's just as hurt as you and missing you just as much. If she doesn't accept your apology, I'm sorry but there's not much hope for you two. You can always try and find new friends on the internet - that's what I advise to most people because you don't HAVE to meet them or even maintain contact with them. If internet friends aren't right for you, you can just tell them that. It's not as difficult. Anyway, I wish you the best of luck.

1 - Never again get into the car with a drunk driver 2 - If you find yourself in the situation where you driver is drunk, do not physically assault them while they are trying to drive 3 - Two weeks seems like enough time to wait before making a move. It you really value the friendship, I would suggest calling her and planning a time to talk about it face to face. You had both been drinking and, when that happens, tempers flare and problems are exaggerated, etc. Since you were the one who assaulted her, she may be expecting you to call and apologize before she contacts you. You hit her, and that was wrong, but you realize this. Maybe she'll forgive you. If not, it's probably time to move on.

WHY do you miss her? She wasn't really a friend.

And these other friends won't speak to you at all?

If you keep following her on social media, you are being an idiot.