My wife of seven year said she ready to start a family and that we should start having them but?

"three years ago she said she want to get married and said the same bs and I married her" -- So you married her solely because she said she wanted to get married? If so, not odd she'd think you'd comply with having kids when she wanted. If you weren't ready for marriage, you should not have married. If you are not ready for kids, you should not have them.

Definitely make your point clear to her that EITHER of you can use that "if you loved me, you'd do what I want" like, and it's meaningless, because the person that says that cares for no ones feelings but their own. You'd be better off leaving her than having kids just because she wants them now.

Tell her no. Not yet. She can accept that or she can end the marriage and find someone to make babies with.

First of all why did you marry your wife if you were not ready for that commitment? That is the most stupidest thing I have heard in my entire life, then you blaming her for it... even more ridiculous!

As for her wanting children, well she has every right to want a child and like every woman - craving a child is very normal and she deserves one. Ladies only have a set amount of time to have children and when you are over thirty you are now considered "an older mum" by medical professionals, because so much more can go wrong past this point.

She does not have forever to wait for you. You need to tell her now that you are not ready and give her the option to leave and find someone who wants a family and the same things as her. Seeing your friends and relatives with something you so desperately want is heartwrenching, I can only imagine how she feels!

SHE has a limited time to have children. If you aren't ready after SEVEN years of marriage, when will you be?

I'm with your wife on this one....While she can't and shouldn't try to make you want to have kids, she has the right to know the truth....will you EVER want them?

If you can't give her a legit reason to wait, then don't be surprised that she is not going to. She may leave you.

If she is over 30, she SHOULD leave you. She only has so many years left.

Obviously your ideas about when to have children are entirely different. Sit down with her and have a discussion. Say that it is nothing to do with your love, it is about being ready to have children. You might both need to compromise on this. because there are lot of I's in your question which sort of indicates that you are not willing to budge. See if you can meet in the middle somewhere but reassure her that it is not about love but amore about the responsibility of having children. Tell her how you really feel and any fears that you might have concerning having and raising a family. Financially you might want to be more ready or emotionally, so these are all things you can talk abut.

I know where you are coming from. I've been with my wife for 13 years and love her more than anything else (honestly, I do). She is almost 33. She wants kids very, very bad. I'm not ready, and honestly might never be.

But, this is important to her. Very important. So, if it's that important to her, it's important to me. A woman can only have kids for so long, and if we don't have kids now, there might not be another chance - ever.

Yes, it's scary. Yes, it will affect my life greatly. But, this is something that she needs in her life, so I'm there for her.

You are an idiot. Pal, a woman is never satisfied or happy and they never honor an agreement. You can never do enough for a woman. They always want and demand more. You can't believe what they say to you either. Because they change their minds every ten minutes and they can find a way to justify themselves no matter what. You messed up pal and you did not figure on a womans nature.

She suckered you buddy. You gave in and now of course she wants/demands more.

This should have been discussed before marriage. Obviously you two are not on the same page. If you had discussed it sooner, you could have married someone else who also wanted to wait whereas she could have married someone who wanted kids asap.

If you guys cant come into agreement, then divorce may be considered.

You do not have to have children. In fact, my husband and I are never having kids and we are the happiest couple out of all of our friends.