I need family advice?

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I'm 19 and I currently live with my mother, just her and I. I don't know where to start but she has anxiety and is depressed, she doesn't take pills anynore(her medical got cut)she's been very unaware of her mind for a few months. My father was physically, emotionally, verbally abusive to my mother and my 6 siblings! Iam the youngest and my father died when I was 13, I didn't get abused by him. All of my siblings (and the majority of my family) have or have had mental disorders, even i, but at 16 I figured it out, I had to learn about my self and what I had going on to start fixing my self so I'm okay now! I still have GAD but I know how to handle it. I didn't get it nearly twice as bad as my siblings iam aware! I stopped going to family events and I separated my self from my family for my own good and I have gotten soooo much better! My mother is not okay, she blames so much on me, even though iam in my own world, I mind my own business and distract my self from her, I have a sister who's always on my moms side she's worse than my mom, yesterday she was yelling at me (load of bonkers to just press the right buttons) I finally just popped after so long of being the bigger person and ignoring them and walking away and I fought my sister, I was arrested in my own house! I have a brother I can possibly move In with but first what advice can you guys please give me? I'm holding my ground because I know iam a ******* diamond but this family is slowly dragging me.

Zion · Answer

it hurts me to hear that you are going through so much at such a young age. A young man such as yourself should place his focus in bettering himself physically emotionally and spiritually. My advice for you is to start living your life the way God wants you to live, GOD wants you to live a fulfilling life with no regrets He wants you to be happy to enjoy the little time on earth that you have. If you think that living with your older sibling is going to help then go. I know that your father has caused a lot of damage and that you still carry some pain ... but you know what ! grow from this ... take this as a lesson of how not to be as a man. Be your own example of a good man. Be a Great husband in the future Be a Better father when you have your own family, Be a great brother to those who love you. Now dont be letting this pain cloud your judgement son, dont be using drugs or get yourself an easy girl that will take you in the wrong direction. Get yourself a job enroll at a community college or get a technical skill .As much as you feel sorry for your mom ... live your own life right now and find yourself dont let your mom and sister drag you down. Your mom is going to hate you becaue she hates herself . All the bad that comes out of her mouth is basically a reflection of how she feels inside. Better yourself ...start going to a church . Be friends with the pastor and ask for advice,if it sounds like it was Godly given listen to it and take it, if it doesnt sound right let it go. GOD bless you you are strong Dont give up!

linkus86 · Answer

Grin and bear it for a couple of more years without letting the others get to you.  Physically remove yourself from any situation that presents itself so you won't even be tempted to be brought down to your sister's level.  And when you have time alone with Mom, try to teach her some strategies you have found successful in dealing with your GAD.

? · Answer

dont think about ur mom and sister,  they are woman.  they will behave like this to u if they dont like u.  if u have enough money,  move with ur bro.  lead a happy life first.. if u again fight with ur sis,  then u lose ur character and this character is bad and can be easily judged by mindreaders in future... no fight with family.  just move to some place and dont come back unless they need u

Pearl L · Answer

maybe you should move out

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