so recently my little sister (13)started acting like a brat our parents are abroad for about 2 months so she stays at my place I live by?

Yes you most definitely did the right thing in grounding her and taking away her electronics for disrespecting you and your rules.

How else is she going to learn that rules are there for a reason and if you don’t follow the rules then there are consequences?

Hold firm and ground her for as long as you said you would and then when that time is up talk to her and tell her that if she doesn’t follow the rules in your house again then you are going to have to ground her again, let her know that you love her and don’t like grounding her, but that you are doing it for her own good so she learns to follow rules that are set by others besides her parents.

Hope this helps and good luck!!

There are only 2 reasons kids act like brats:

1) because they were not raised well. Parents didn't do a very good job instilling discipline and self-control.

2) because they are acting out. Something is wrong and it's the way they cry for attention.

If the problem is the former, it's going to be a challenged to teach her to follow rules and boundaries. She's not used to it and she's going to fight back. Don't fight with her, don't let her bait you into a power struggle. Don't over-punish (like you're grounded forever type things don't end up working) and make sure to reward her for compliance. Just set boundaries, and like a robot repeat them and repeat the consequences. Learn to pick and choose your battles.

If it's the latter, you still need to set boundaries and limits, but you should spend a lot of time with her and talk and try to get her to open up. Once she feels she can confide in you and that you're sympathetic to her pain, she'll feel less need for rebellion.

Of course it could be a combination of both. Learn to stick to your guns with the house rules without being judgemental -- remember, you're not punishing her. She's choosing the punishment, and you want her to choose to end it by doing what is expected of her. Try to have some fun, too, though. Don't let everything become an argument.

Hi, I'm Gracie. I am using my moms computer for this because I felt like I would like to get something straight. I am 13. I am a brat, I hate to say. and honestly, I do it for attention sometimes. or I do it because I am depressed and just not feeling like I have feelings. Maybe you're a bit rough on her. bring her some candy or a small gift and bond with her a little bit💞 it will get better as she gets older

This is 98 percent on your parents and 2 percent on you, lol.

When parents ask another adult to take care of their child, it's mandatory (and also common sense) to make sure their child understands that they are to do what that adult tells them to do and be respectful. And if they don't, there will be consequences.

Your parents didn't do this, which takes away your right to run your own home as you see fit. At 27, it's ridiculous that you have to call mommy and daddy to get approval on the decisions you make. It's your house, you are providing a very valuable service to them, and you shouldn't have to justify your decisions to anybody.

I suggest you call your parents and tell them this. If your sib knows there won't be consequences for her misbehavior when they get back, you will have a long 2 months. It's simple: when you tell her to do something, she's to do it. And lose the 'tude.

PS - in case you're wondering about your 2 percent, that's just because if you didn't know for sure your parents gave you the authority you needed, you should have made this a condition before saying yes.

It is the age but you were totally right. I think she is having the You are not my parents issue but you are the parent while they are gone I assume you are doing what you think they would have done.

you might gain a little ground by being a little lenient on returning things.

Job well done

Are you the parent?

It's not your place to correct her behavior.

You are to worry about her life, let the parents worry about hers.

It's very common for children to act this way, hopefully with in a decade or so she will mature a little, maybe not.

I would stay out of it though, unless she personally does or says something to you.

If she is living with you, than make her follow your rules. If she doesn't have another adult take care of her. Personally I wouldn't hire a sibling to care for a teen. Teens need discipline and structure, better to let the grand parents look after her.

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Good luck and be sure you have a psychologist on retainer so you can get an appointment when needed. You are not the parent of this girl and this attitude is not going to get you anywhere positive. If anything works it is positive influences not negative ones. I suggest you dress yourself in patience and learn to ignore her plea for attention. Fun activities and messages have a higher potential to work. At this age girls are bound by biology to respond to the cultural forces of her world, whatever that force might be. Otherwise, notify your parents that they need to come home or pick her up.

Of course you are in the right when taking her things/grounding her, this is discipline. You just need to keep enforcing your rules and grounding her until she will listen but remember most young teens act just the way she does so don't think she is the only one acting this way! :)

No I don't think this will work. You should be using your time to bond with her and do things together. Connect with her. Talk to her. Adults think that teenagers will show them respect by behaving like you are. But why do you think she will show you any respect when you are showing her none in return. You are basically starting a war/dictatorship. That's not going to teach her anything.

You're doing the right thing