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? asked in Social SciencePsychology · 6 years ago

Is it appropriate for my boyfriend to be pushing me everyday to fix my situation, knowing that I don't have the money yet?

My boyfriend is a nice guy and has a heart, and he wants to help me fix my situation so bad.

For the past two years I have been in a homeless situation due to the lack of jobs/income and its been really hard finding jobs and keeping them. I was a full-time student going to a university out of state but when the tuition fees became to hard to handle and I was financial unstable. I had to stop everything and go find work so that I could one pay off the tuition fees, 2 have a job lined up after getting out of school, and 3 get back into the work force. This became a lot harder than I thought and longer. I had been sleeping on friends couches, and on food stamps. This year I decided that it was time to get a little more aggressive and I went back to work part-time mainly so that I could start buying my own food and mostly survive. The hours at my work became more and it enabled me to get a room (which is not great) which gives me my own space, and I have stopped sleeping on friends couches. The rooming thing is not forever but a roof over my head while things continue to improve and my credit is not good either. I am starting work full-time soon and once the money starts rolling in along with the money I receive my other job I plan to get into a studio apartment.

My boyfriend, who is a new guy in my life is being kind of pushy, I know that its partly because he feels bad for me. But there's nothing I can do until I start my new full-time job.

Update:

My boyfriend keeps accusing me of being too comfortable and like I don't react enough to his satisfaction. He thinks that I should just go back to California and live with my parents, What is freaking out everyday going to do? And how is moving back into my parents roof going to improve anything? I'm 35, I'm doing everything in my power to improve my situation. I'm just taking baby-steps and I do grumble on the inside a lot, I actually hate it. Am I doing the right things?

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  • 6 years ago
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    If he wants to help so bad, ask him to give you a place to stay until you can do better

  • 6 years ago

    No,it isn't.He should be trying his hardest instead of making you feel worse.

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