How do I stop acting like a female and take control of the relationship, as the man I am?

You need to realize you are in too deep in the relationship that isn't supposed to be "in too deep". You screwed up and began to care too much. And once that happened you broke the rule of what was supposed to be a casual relationship and have been trying to turn it into more with an unwilling partner. We have all been there brother, but the bad news is that most of the time the only way to end the cycle is break it off and find someone else who is willing to become emotionally invested.

No you're human, but why are you acting this way? Whats the real reason behind your frustration? Would you like to see more of her? And it's ok to feel frustrated and angry, but figuring out what's the real reason behind all this anger, will help you learn more about yourself. Stop comparing yourself to others. You don't know what men and women do behind closed doors.

Youre allowing your emotions/frustrations to get the best of you instead of controlling it. Its normal for guys to become aggressive to take out their frustrations but you should do it in a contact sport, not acting rudely towards others.

Hold on loosely, and don't let go. If you cling too tightly, you're going to lose control.