Should I suck it up and apologize to my mom?

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We haven't been speaking since Thanksgiving, all over a stupid petty fight. I came home at 2:30 am on Wednesday night (I am a senior in computer science, and won't settle for anything less than an A-, and that takes time). My mom like, jumps on me when I come through the door, hounding me about all this stuff I need to do tomorrow, complaining about how I never help out (because I'm at school working on stuff all the time).

I got annoyed because it's so late at night and to be bombarded with a huge list of stuff to do the minute you walk in the door after a super long day is inherently stressful.

I agreed to do the chores. I also mentioned that I wished school was open so I could get more work done, and she took personal offense to that.

It was a really stupid fight. I woke up the next day, did all the chores, but she still was mad at me for my "I wish I could go to school and get stuff done" comment, and another fight arose. I said "Fine, I don't need this stress, I'm going to my boyfriend's house for thanksgiving."

Meanwhile, I haven't talked to her (nor has she talked to me) for the rest of the semester. Now that the semester is over and I am home for more than sleeping, I have to see her. On top of that, I've kinda been phased out of celebrating Christmas with them.

I am stressed that parents aren't talking to me. I already don't feel at home in my own house.

Do I suck it up and apologize to restore peace, even though I didn't do anything really wrong?

? · Accepted Answer

Well it's obvious neither of you think you did anything wrong. Rather than apologize simply suggest to her that you allow bygones to be bygones, that you forgive and forget so that you and your family can spend a happy holiday together.

Ham · Answer

It sounds like you don't have much to apologize for so unless there was a bad tone in what you said or there was more said that you are not mentioning, don't do it because it is dishonest.  However, you can be the big one and approach your mum and state that you don't want to live with a 'separation' anymore and would she like to be friends again.  You can say this with genuine sadness.  You can certainly apologize if this hurt her because you didn't  mean that. Some peoud people will not accept that because they have vowed it in their own minds tgat they want you to apologize before talking.  Any reasonable person would not do that and accept the chance.  If she takes the proud path, don't be provoked into defending your position. Just say that you would dearly like to be reconciled and leave the next step with her for a few days.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm going to guess that deep down your mom really misses you a lot (since you mention you are busy a lot with school and get home late). If I were you I would suck it up and say sorry to her, because I'm sure she is worrying about you right now even if her actions say otherwise. Best of luck.

keerok · Answer

Suck up and apologize. Even if you did not mean it, your mother was offended. Admit it, she does not care about what you think or feel about it. Give her what she wants and she'll lay off.

Or you could not do it and it will pile up for the rest of your life.

Taurean · Answer

Yes you should apologize to them. It is better than not talking to each other.

bette · Answer

i wold be angry also if after all that u went to bfs house
YOU OWE THEM AN  APOLOGIE!  IT IS HARDLY SUCKING UP WHEN YOU WERE IN THE WRONG.  Get over yourself.

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