Help? Is it my husbands ego? His pride? Or is it insecurities?! Ive lost my patience for him and i need some serious advice! He works 2 jobs?

I dont trust my husband to handle our money anything past bills and a few hundred bucks left over.

In the past one time, hes secretly given his mom money which i found out through bank statements.

Hes also on 2 occasions used up everything in my sons savings account withoit notifying me. The first time i let it go and forgave him. He did it a 2nd time and i had enough.

Im a stay home mom full time so i dont have any income at all.

So now that ill be working some things gotta be discussed.

Ive asked him to ask his dad if he can come home just a 2 hrs earlier (he works for his dad) so he can watch the kids bc my mom has to go to work and he got really angry about this.

Then i told him id like to take over the remainder of the money after he pays bills and divide certain percentages for these below:

- emergency funds

- vacation funds

- Christmas funds etc

And he also got really angry.

Can sum1 please tell me wat his issue is?? Ive tried to be understanding that hes under a lot of stress bc he does work a 2nd job at home at night times everyday after his full time job but i still think this is no way to treat me as his wife as if ive done something awful. I feel guilty for going back to work and everytime i have to discuss something with him i have to always tippy-toe my way around him bc i already kno hes gonna get upset. He says its bc he hates, but could it be his ego? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks!