How do you forgive your mom who told you in the face that she wishes she aborted you?

I don't think its something that you can forget, and perhaps even forgive. The best you might do is to consider that your mother is mentally ill and that this is a product of her own emotional distortions and troubles. Don't forget to protect yourself. Don't keep coming back to her for either an apology or a change of heart, she is what she is, and I'm so sorry that she said this to you. Good wishes,

I'm sorry she said that to you. You can try talking to her about her frustrations. She might just need someone to listen to vent her frustrations out in healthier ways.

My mom was always miserable with her life, with moving to a new country as a young wife and staying at home raising kids all her life. She has said hateful things to me and my sisters before, about how she never wished she never had us. She was also bipolar, which worsened her moods and rages. It hurts to hear those words. Yes it does. No parents should say these things to their kids. But my mom never says sorry, so for the sake of our relationship, I've just had to forgive her and forget it with time. You might need to do the same.

My dad said something like that to me. You don't talk to her and distance yourself. She is your mom. At some point, she will realise something is off. When she comes to you, you tell her everything honestly. She owes you an apology. Don't let anyone treat you like that. No one. Everyone has problems and frustrations. It doesn't mean we have the right to create that situation for others and pass on those feelings to others.

Ask them if they said it out of anger