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My family doesn't accept my best friend?
I've got a friend named Sara. She's been around for over five years, and was considered my best friend for a while. She came around often, and always made my family happy. Then around sixth grade I met another girl (I'll just call her K for now), and she was really nice, like my best friend was. Well, we started hanging out, and now I consider her my best friend. Only my family doesn't seem to like her. They always talk about Sara, and it's always good. When I bring up K, however, they always seem irritated or not as happy. One time I was crying because my dad was screaming at me and I said I wish K was here. He then started screaming more, saying K was part of the problem. That hurts my feelings a lot, because she isn't. He also said that we never hang out, which technically isn't true because we are with each other at school every day. Even my stepmom and grandma have joked about her in a bad way, calling her my crush and all that stupid stuff. But how do they know she hasn't done a lot for me? K is incredibly nice and they have no reason to be mean about her. How can I talk to my family about this? Are they just used to Sara? Please help.
4 Answers
- 5 years ago
Honestly, parents see a lot more than we see. Their instincts can be on key. It happened to me growing up. And once I lost the friends I thought were best friend material, my parents would say they've known that the person was bad and that I didn't see it because I was too invested in the friendship. And it's true. But at the same time, have you considered that's what they have noticed? How different is Sara from K? Maybe they saw she was helping you. And, also hanging out at school doesn't count for much, they are right on that. You honestly don't know a person because a person can always wear masks in one place and outside of it after a while they show their real selves. I'd talk to your parents and compromise. Let K hangout more often. Ask them what they see is the difference between Sara and K. Then you will get more of a perspective to work with.
- 5 years ago
Next time they bring it up, ask them why they think she is bad. Their reasons may be nonsense, but they might also give you some things to think about. Who knows. In any case, just find out why they don't like her. But just for the record, hanging out at school really isn't the same as hanging out at each other's houses as well. They are right about that. Just listen to all their reasons with an open mind and think about them later on.
Also, while I do realize it is not relevant to your question, I would hope that your previous best friend Sara is ok with the new state of affairs and doesn't feel bad about you and K.
- 5 years ago
I feel the same. My best friend is never the problem, but my parents sometimes accuse her of distracting me (as I'm a guy). Just tell them that one day, K will do a lot for you, and tell them to "wait and see". That's how i show my best friend is caring.
- Happy-2Lv 75 years ago
People always have reasons for who they like and who they dislike. So ASK your parents. Ask them nicely, and then shut your mouth and LISTEN to their answers without arguing.
