M&D: Do you find it acceptable for a grown woman to cry in order to get her way with her husband?

Shortly after my divorce, I had a girlfriend that used tears to get her way. It only took a couple of times to see what she was doing. I explained that I'd already had enough drama for a lifetime, and that I couldn't handle the "waterworks". Amazingly she instantly stopped sobbing, and tried to apologize. It was too late. The damage was done. I do not find this acceptable.

I think people cry for many reasons. Getting their way is one of them. I still don't find it acceptable, but if they are that passionate about getting their way, I think I'd at least try to understand them why it means this much to them before I keep putting my foot down. After all, you can't heal a person from being a narcissist.

I think we walk a very fine line by citing "crying to get her way" because so many women cry just because they're unhappy while arguing. Some women cry when they're frustrated or upset. How many of their husbands think it's a manipulation tactic when it's not?

Do I find it acceptable to throw tantrums? No. Absolutely not. Adults should learn to communicate effectively which means remaining calm. That said, sometimes frustration genuinely does lead to some tears…

Firstly, crying is not childish. Secondly, if you think tears are a tool for manipulation, think about it more deeply. Sometimes they are, but if you assume that this is the case every time, you'll be treating women very badly. Men who are hostile to women see tears as a trick. I hope you're not hostile.

I would never make myself cry just to get my way. Sometimes when I'm really disappointed or sad about something that I wish would have gone a different way, I may cry but it's not out of manipulation and I don't expect it to change the outcome.

No, I would not find that acceptable. Thankfully I married a grown woman who would never do that.

I do not cry as a manipulative tool.

Women are raised to NOT repress their emotions, so when uncomfortable emotions well up ... we cry.

If you are manipulated by this, this is YOUR problem. We cry even when we are alone, even when we are embarrassed to be crying in front of others, even when crying HURTS our wishes rather than helps them.

You really don't understand women. I advise you to find a man to pair up with instead, so you don't have to try to develop empathy.

I've cried my heart out quite a few times during my marriage.. but never to control and manipulate my husband. Perhaps you are misinterpreting the situation.

I find it very unacceptable. I cry very very easy, always have probably always will. But never to get my own way.